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Wedding borrowing
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A wedding is not an unplanned, unforeseen event. It's something you plan for months or even years for, and you SAVE! Do you honestly feel comfortable with your poor dad spending the proceeds of the sale of his house on your ONE day???!! Just wrong
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I sometimes wonder if I'm right in waiting until I can afford things before I do them what with the way people go on these days.
Why is it such an alien concept to be careful and not reckless with money?Hi, we’ve had to remove your signature. If you’re not sure why please read the forum rules or email the forum team if you’re still unsure - MSE ForumTeam0 -
skintandscared wrote: »A wedding is not an unplanned, unforeseen event. It's something you plan for months or even years for, and you SAVE! Do you honestly feel comfortable with your poor dad spending the proceeds of the sale of his house on your ONE day???!! Just wrong
It's not 'just wrong' at all, the word is 'traditional', though less commonplace these days. Rather judgemental of you, and for all you know, the Dad may have insisted on paying.
Some people deserve harsh words on here for their stupidity, but quite why it is necessary in this instance is beyond me.“In any moment of decision the best thing you can do is the right thing, the next best thing is the wrong thing, and the worst thing you can do is nothing at all.” - Roosevelt0 -
Firstly congratulations and how exciting for you! I really do think that you will get a little more help on the debt free board by posting up a statement of affairs so that the people on there can help you see where/how you can save money towards your day over the next 7 months.
It does seem a little odd that with 7 months to go your dad is assuming the house won't have sold. Is there any reason he couldn't raise some additional finance on it to help you (if that is what he was intending anyway). Perhaps there are other reasons why he no longer feels able to contribute and is using the house sale as an excuse.
At this stage in the game you need to be practical and see how you can manage the financing yourselves by cutting back/saving.0 -
Can you really not afford £200 a month? If you cant, then you need to think about your ideas of your wedding and having children until you can have some spare cash each month for emergencies etc.0
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tell_it_how_it_is wrote: »It's not 'just wrong' at all, the word is 'traditional', though less commonplace these days. Rather judgemental of you, and for all you know, the Dad may have insisted on paying.
Some people deserve harsh words on here for their stupidity, but quite why it is necessary in this instance is beyond me.
sorry, I clearly mistook this for an open forum where people post their opinions... oh, wait a minute...
Lots of things were "traditional" a long time ago, and are now seen as impractical and archaic, including the bride's father paying for a wedding. If he was that insistent, he'd have come up with a solution that didn't depend on something as uncertain as selling his house. And to be honest I wouldn't accept my father going to those lengths to do that for me. And yes, I'm intrigued as to why the original post doesn't once mention the word "save", which is a far more common approach to financing a wedding these days.DMP Mutual Support Thread member 244
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I have to be honest, this is the part I have trouble with. It makes it sound like having children would be some kind of surprise.However I do not want to commit myself to large payments every month for a long period in case our circumstances change (i.e having children) and are less able to afford the payments.Hi, we’ve had to remove your signature. If you’re not sure why please read the forum rules or email the forum team if you’re still unsure - MSE ForumTeam0 -
One of the things you could consider is what other family members & good friends might contribute instead of buying gifts. Most families can rustle up a good many skills, and it seems a rare family that hasn't got a good cake-maker, photographer, seamstress, florist etc. in it. Often they are delighted to be asked, and many may be pleased to use a talent that would cost you a lot to hire, so they get to give you an expensive gift that saves them money!
You can also consider for example, asking the best man to pay for his own suit hire as a gift to you, or for the bridesmaids to agree on a nice frock they would be happy to buy for themselves; as long as you make it clear that is their contribution and you don't expect an extra gift.0 -
One of the things you could consider is what other family members & good friends might contribute instead of buying gifts. Most families can rustle up a good many skills, and it seems a rare family that hasn't got a good cake-maker, photographer, seamstress, florist etc. in it. Often they are delighted to be asked, and many may be pleased to use a talent that would cost you a lot to hire, so they get to give you an expensive gift that saves them money!
You can also consider for example, asking the best man to pay for his own suit hire as a gift to you, or for the bridesmaids to agree on a nice frock they would be happy to buy for themselves; as long as you make it clear that is their contribution and you don't expect an extra gift.
Totally agree with this. My friend's recent wedding was fab and everyone chipped in and did their "bit". My pressie was their wedding cakes - a cupcake tower that cost me what I would have spent on a present but saved them hundreds, and everyone loved them
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