Is this fair?

bethl79

My youngest girls are at a preschool which we are really happy with, they love going and adore the staff.

There is another preschool in our village, which is within the grounds of the primary school (although they are a separate establishment) and I'm really cross because I feel like the children at this one are being given preferential treatment by the school.

For example, I was told today that these preschoolers are being 'buddied up' with year 2 children at the school to help prepare them for reception. They are invited in to all special assemblies such as the harvest festival and nativity etc and join in with the school sports day plus lots of other activites. (As an aside, they are also given money out of the pta funds for purchases of equipment and supplies which I personally think shouldn't be allowed as that money should be for the school only )

Our preschool has asked if they can be included in these types of activities, as they are within walking distance so the staff would walk the children there and back, which the headteacher initially agreed to but has still not sent out any invitations

When we were looking at preschools our understanding was that they were both equal, if we had been told at the time about these extras then it may have affected our decision. We would not move them now that they are so settled but I would still like them to be included in these things!

I'm not sure if I'm just getting annoyed over nothing! Would you be cross or is it just me getting my knickers in a twist?!

I'd really appreciate your thoughts x

balletshoes

well yes, you do appear to be getting your knickers in a twist :rotfl: over something you have no control over, and can't do anything about. So why twist your knickers so? Your girls enjoy their pre-school, and presumably the staff stimulate them and offer lots of different activities, so they are getting a lot out of where they are, without having the primary school's involvement.

bethl79

Thought I probably was lol, I think I need to chill and stop trying to control everything

lexuslass

bethl79 wrote: »

When we were looking at preschools our understanding was that they were both equal, if we had been told at the time about these extras then it may have affected our decision. We would not move them now that they are so settled but I would still like them to be included in these things!

I'm not sure if I'm just getting annoyed over nothing! Would you be cross or is it just me getting my knickers in a twist?!

I personally don't think you are getting your knickers in a twist - I would be a little peeved about that actually, especially if you were led to believe that both were equal!! who made you think that by the way? was it your current pre-school or word of mouth?

Just a thought, If it was the pre-school, maybe they wanted you to think that so that they could keep their numbers up and stay in business?? In which case, I would be pretty bloomin peeved with them tbh!!

bethl79 wrote: »

There is another preschool in our village, which is within the grounds of the primary school (although they are a separate establishment)
I'd really appreciate your thoughts x

I presume there is only the one school in your village which your daughters will inevitably be attending?

bethl79 wrote: »

For example, I was told today that these preschoolers are being 'buddied up' with year 2 children at the school to help prepare them for reception. They are invited in to all special assemblies such as the harvest festival and nativity etc and join in with the school sports day plus lots of other activites. (As an aside, they are also given money out of the pta funds for purchases of equipment and supplies which I personally think shouldn't be allowed as that money should be for the school only )

Our preschool has asked if they can be included in these types of activities, as they are within walking distance so the staff would walk the children there and back, which the headteacher initially agreed to but has still not sent out any invitations

Are you sure this pre-school is not attached to the primary in some way? It may be a seperate establishment, but it may have been allocated some funding from the school for being a main 'feeder' pre-school (if you see what I mean).

I personally would be questioning your current pre-school .. I mean are they feeding parents false or elaborated information to keep their own numbers up? I know you say the staff are lovely, but they are there to look after your daughters and not run the pre-school.. what are the owners like?

Your daughters will leave pre-school to start school soon enough, maybe moving them to the other pre-school will benefit them more??

Just giving you a few thoughts... hope it's helped! x

moodydonkey

bethl79 wrote: »

Thought I probably was lol, I think I need to chill and stop trying to control everything

It's normal to not want your kids to miss out and yes maybe what you've described does seem a little unfair. It's only preschool. It's not GCSE's or A levels. Save your worrying for later There will be plenty of it then so just enjoy a save happy environment for them now!

Amanda65

I think you are worrying over nothing tbh. It's a pre-school and presumably there are other children who will go into reception with your daughters. There will also be children new to the area. It's life - sometimes it's fair and sometime's it's not.

At the end of the day your daughter's are happy and settled, which is a good start to their education and I am sure will be fine when they go to school as well

moomoomama27

I don't find it unfair! If the child goes to a preschool on a primary site, it's my understanding (as has been the case for two of my children), that they are very much included in the school. Assembly, plays, special days, s part of the school.

bethl79

Thanks for all your replies, I have spoken with the head and have found out that the other pre-school is now part of the school, apparently it wasn't when first set up a couple of years ago but the administration has been recently taken over by the headteacher.

She did admit however that our pre-school has been overlooked and she is now going to ensure that they will be included in invites to nativity, special assemblies etc.

All of the information regarding preschools etc I received from my surestart centre and preschool learning alliance when we were choosing. The one they are at is definitely a lot nicer which is why we chose it so we should be thankful for that, and will just be grateful that our girls will now not be left out of things

moodydonkey

Great news, now relax and enjoy :T