Need to let it all out!!

VJW87

I just reiterate all the comments above, offer massive hugs and all the best for you, your partner and the baby. The most important thing you can do is remain positive.
Weddings are supposed to be the happiest day of your life and all that jazz but the cost is just disgusting. We managed to do ours on a 'shoe string' with a lot of help from friends and family and still managed to spend way more than we ever wanted to.
I've only really been posting on the forum over the last two weeks having found out about my partners debt recently - but be assured, the people of MSE don't judge, they will offer support and advice and when you have a query that you're not quite sure about, there'll be someone around who knows just where to point you.

moneybuster

well done with pay plan hopefully that's a weight of your mind, still a few rocky bit's with letters but nothing everyone else has been through,

your next move is hubby try to get him to the doctors about his state of metal health at the moment, he needs to move forward with you and the baby, it's hard with depression really hard, the doctor may help, just remember you may need to do a new statement for PP when the baby arrives don't leave your self short.


MB

mizmir

Didn't want to read and run either. Well done for being up front about your situation and good luck with getting it sorted. You've taken the first steps and you will get there. Remember your health and that of your baby are the most important things - the rest is just money at the end of the day. Once you get your DMP in place things will become less stressful.

jakes-mum

Hellooooo Hannajane :wave:

just to say, my husband is one of those people who buries his head in the sand about debt, he also has depression and I spent many years hiding out finance problems from him, dealing with it all myself. I have since fallen ill with M.E and was forced to tell him what was going on, it was not a nice conversation with alot of him 'why didnt you tell me' and me 'why do oyu always spend money we dont have' but it really did stop me feeling so weighed down! Despite being depressed he did step up and start talking to me about our debts, I still pay everything but if it gets on top of me or we are running short I have someone to talk to about it.

Do talk to your DH about whats going on, it may also help him see he needs to return to the doctor about his depression and that he needs to return to work which in itself will help him feel more worthwhile as a person

It does feel like you have nowhere to turn, but it will get better and the thing thats most important is your little girl to be, take care of her, share your worries with your DH and take all the fabulous advice by the wonderful DFW people and things will look better

Oh and congratulations

beautifylife

After reading your post, I felt your pain and frustration, and it seems so to have many others here. Writing things down I feel helps to make them more concrete, get them out of your head and therefore a little less daunting. Perhaps keeping a journal might help.

It sounds like you are taking steps to be responsible for your situation while at the same time it is extremely stressful with lots of unknowns.

For me, its about doing everything I can, and getting support from everyone around (family, friends, GP, or even talking with a professional for free just to have room to work out how you feel and what you want to do, with someone who is non judgemental).

Maybe take a look around at what you can access for free to help you keep moving forward.

The more resilient you are emotionally the better you will be able to handle the challenges.

Thanks for sharing
with care and support