Ex says I owe her half the rent deposit.

Ulfar

So she paid the deposit, her cats caused the damage, she challenged the deduction and failed, what was left was returned to her. It is now a year later.

How in any way does she think you are liable for anything. Her cats are her problem, they were repsonsible for the loss, she should be suing the cats.

Some people do amaze me. Ignore her texts, any communication should be in writing., if it goes to court it will be small claims turn up and present your case its not that formal and from what you have said she will lose.

Pupnik

BitterAndTwisted wrote: »

Just strikes me as the ex is on a fishing expedition. She precipitated the move because she needed to for work. She had the cats which caused the damage. She ended the relationship. All reasons why she doesn't deserve a penny of anyone else's money just because she's now decided that she does. I wouldn't be doing or saying anything until I had the court papers in my hands.

Yes how dare she change jobs, how dare she own some cats, how dare she leave a relationship that isn't working, what a terrible person...

I think the amount seems unreasonable unless you had a really nice carpet (unlikely!) but I do think that when two adults live together they should have joint responsibility for their property and their pets. It seems quite childish to say 'her cats' when I assume you agreed to live with her and the cats in the first place, knowing that with pets there is a risk of property damage. That said I don't think you should hand over all that money because it strikes me that she has been ripped off by the landlord and it is him she should have taken it up with. Also, I've kept enough cats to know that with the right cleaning products and some elbow grease you shouldn't have to replace the whole carpet just because it got peed on- unless they peed and neither of you cleaned it up for ages.

DUTR

poppysarah wrote: »

"During the time we were there, one of her cats stained the carpet and so the deposit was lost on moving out."

If all the deposit was lost then give her half.
NOTHING.

I wondered why nobody else saw that side of things

RobertoMoir

Pupnik wrote: »

Yes how dare she change jobs, how dare she own some cats, how dare she leave a relationship that isn't working, what a terrible person...

I think the amount seems unreasonable unless you had a really nice carpet (unlikely!) but I do think that when two adults live together they should have joint responsibility for their property and their pets. It seems quite childish to say 'her cats' when I assume you agreed to live with her and the cats in the first place, knowing that with pets there is a risk of property damage.

That depends whether they were "their" pets or just "her" pets. I agree with what you were saying if the cats were "their" pets but the poster seems fairly clear that the cats were "her" pets. I would suggest that its perfectly possible, and indeed even reasonable, to pursue a relationship with someone despite not having all the exact same interests as them. Variety is supposed to be the spice of life, after all.

That said I don't think you should hand over all that money because it strikes me that she has been ripped off by the landlord and it is him she should have taken it up with. Also, I've kept enough cats to know that with the right cleaning products and some elbow grease you shouldn't have to replace the whole carpet just because it got peed on- unless they peed and neither of you cleaned it up for ages.

Agree with all this bit wholeheartedly.

Spartacus_Mills

missile wrote: »

It is up to the OP and his conscience. I would feel obliged to pay half. What goes around comes around.

More fool you. It was not his cat that p1ssed all over the carpet.

I think he is well within his rights.

OP, tell her to go swivel.

Ulfar

Wow just wow to some of the responses. I own a cat it is my pet, I have had my cat since before I moved in with my last partner, but in no way did that mean the cat was ours. To be fair cat couldn't stand my ex, no matter how nice she tried to be to it.

When the relationship broke down and we went our separate ways the cat went with me as it is mine.

I assume the situation is the same for the OP from what has been posted. Any damage is down to the owner of the pet. I agree that the deduction may have been unreasonable, but the ex-partner did challenge it and failed. Why and for what reason she failed is her problem.

The OP didn't get any of the deposit money it went to the ex-partner as she paid it in the first place. I am still struggling to see how she would have any claim on him morally or legally.