DD's birthday

rachbc

My dd is 5 next month - when I asked her what she wants for her birthday she said a build a bear - this is all she has wanted for ages!

So we are taking her to choose and make the bear the day before her Birthday

She also saw a skirt last week that she loved (big 50's petticot) and so I've got her that and will make a matching one for the bear.

She hasn't asked for anything else but I will get her a few books and some craft stuff (she loves art) and am making her a few other bits (appliqued t shirt and making jeans plus an art caddy for all her stuff)

BUT I feel that she hasn't got a 'main' present - she's getting what she wants and will be thrilled but I feel its not enough!!! Stop me form going out and buying a sylvanian families school just to make me feel better when I know she'll be happy.....

Teenie_D

IMO that is more than enough. A main present isn't necessary and if you are getting her what she wants that's all that matters. Enjoy it while you can, when she get's older she will no doubt be wanting this that and the other.

sexymouse

Those presents sound lovely OP. I don't think she necessarily needs a main present - I think for her, her build a bear teddy will probably seem like her main present, as she gets to choose all of the accessories and make it herself, so it lasts a bit longer.

rachbc

i know - my son is 13 which is possibly part of the problem as he gets big ££ gifts! Not that she knows or cares - all she wants to play wiht his his build a bear!!

peachyprice

By the time she's chosen the bear, the clothes, the shoes and the accessories you'll have spent more than enough for it to be a 'main present'

jakes-mum

I wouldnt feel bad, my son is 10 and DD is 3, he get much more expensive stuff because hes older and his tastes are more expensive. Your DD has asked for her main present, a build a bear, which she will no doubt love much more than the £50 sylvanian familys overpriced toy.

To make you feel better, when asked what she wanted for christmas, my DD said 'a skipping rope' and hasnt wavered from this for the last 3 months! So thats what shes got, she has other bits as well but I know that this skipping rope ive bought for £5 off ebay will be used till it breaks. Dont spend money for the sake of it

Lunar_Eclipse

rachbc wrote: »

BUT I feel that she hasn't got a 'main' present - she's getting what she wants and will be thrilled but I feel its not enough!!! Stop me form going out and buying a sylvanian families school just to make me feel better when I know she'll be happy.....

Yes she has; the bear is her main present! Otherwise, how are you defining main present?

If you buy her a bear with an outfit, that is plenty (£40 easily) Personally, I'd do it on her birthday too, cut down on some of the other gifts you've planned and really go to town looking at all the accessories in the Build A Bear shop. You can easily spend a couple of hours in one of their shops, take her for a hot chocolate and cake and she will be really happy.

In all honesty, if you buy her something like the Sylvanians School as well, you'll reduce the joy of her getting what she really wants, in my opinion.

If you need to spend more money on the occasion, please consider buying her an Oxfam charity gift or putting money in her bank account without telling her. Less is more!

dirtysexymonkey

Lunar_Eclipse wrote: »

Yes she has; the bear is her main present! Otherwise, how are you defining main present?

If you buy her a bear with an outfit, that is plenty (£40 easily) Personally, I'd do it on her birthday too, cut down on some of the other gifts you've planned and really go to town looking at all the accessories in the Build A Bear shop. You can easily spend a couple of hours in one of their shops, take her for a hot chocolate and cake and she will be really happy.

In all honesty, if you buy her something like the Sylvanians School as well, you'll reduce the joy of her getting what she really wants, in my opinion.

If you need to spend more money on the occasion, please consider buying her an Oxfam charity gift or putting money in her bank account without telling her. Less is more!

shes 5. i dont think shell get much pleasure out of a bit of paper saying someones got a goat. in fact as shes five shell probably want a goat herself.

rachbc

dirtysexymonkey wrote: »

shes 5. i dont think shell get much pleasure out of a bit of paper saying someones got a goat. in fact as shes five shell probably want a goat herself.

we have chickens who she adores so I think she would actually appreciate us giving some chickens to another family

podperson

Totally agree that the bear is her 'main present' - which she has asked for and you know she will love. She also has lots of other bits so you know she's going to be perfectly happy. You sound like a great mum and your DD will have a lovely birthday - so why do you feel the need to buy her more things that she hasn't asked for?

singlestep

She's going to be delighted with her bear and, to her, it will be the main present whatever you went out and bought next. Don't waste money on something that wouldn't necessarily make her happier. Maybe when she's older you'll look back and wish she were that easy to please. I'm not a parent but I am astounded at the amount of things older children seem to get - some of them never really seem to be satisfied.