Living in Halls (partner + child at home)

bungenstein

find like minded friends in the first year then get an apartment, much better than halls imo

mummyroysof3

would it not be worth trying to find out about renting someones spare room or something? i can imagine it would be a hard thing to do but if its something you really want to do and will have long term benefits for you family then good luck to you

mountainofdebt

tbh even without a small child, but especially with one, this idea sounds like a complete receipe for disaster.

My OH worked away when Junior was small for a similar number of days per week and I come to feel like a single parent. And yes I almost did resent my OH always being away when I had crap to deal with.

What would you do if your son was ill or there was a parents evening, for example, to attend whilst you were away?

Personally I don't think you've thought about the pitfalls throughly enough.....what course do you want to do? Have you researched the prospect of studying with the OU or are you just assuming you can't do it by long distance methods?

pauletruth

whats the course. if nursing/social work or teaching the ou does them. have you checked local colleges thay may tie in with a uni that does the course you want. it would be very stress full for you. think very carefully about it.

Oldernotwiser

pauletruth wrote: »

whats the course. if nursing/social work or teaching the ou does them. have you checked local colleges thay may tie in with a uni that does the course you want. it would be very stress full for you. think very carefully about it.

Fortunately you cannot train to be a nurse through the OU and you can only do a social work degree if you're sponsored.

Mind you, I can't really see why you've picked on these three careers and can only hope that it's not because the OP is female!

lynzpower

Would you really feel ok to leave your child at home? And not be with your OH for 3 whole years? How old is the child? Is your partner ready to effectively turn into a single parent at the times you are not there? Are you ok with not being there on the day to day for your child?

Its only 100 miles can you not just drive it? Can you not look for a property midway between the two locations?

Aelius

anonamouse wrote: »

Do you not think its ok for me to leave my child for 3 /4 days? i get the feeling your judging my choice. He will be starting school soon.

I don't think anyone is judging you. I've just finished my degree as a mature student, and it is hard. And I don't have any children or a partner!

You're at Uni 3-4 days a week, then over the weekends you will need to be reading, preparing for seminars and writing essays, reports etc. Your son will not see you for most of the week, how is he going to react when you're too bogged down in revision etc? How is he going to react when you leave for four days at a time? I know my niece would scream the house down!

Many of my friends at uni had young families, but they had very supportive husbands [both emotionally and financially.]

And what about you? Won't you miss your son and husband?

pauletruth

Oldernotwiser wrote: »

Fortunately you cannot train to be a nurse through the OU and you can only do a social work degree if you're sponsored.

Mind you, I can't really see why you've picked on these three careers and can only hope that it's not because the OP is female!

sorry to say you are wrong. the ou is now one of the larger unis for training. how do i know well the wife mentors them. the wife also topped her diploma to degree level by them and has done some post gradute training.

i only mentioned those options because its the three i know of. and being a male or female makes no diffrence to any of them its open to anyone. i trained as a student nurse under project 2000 in the early1990 one of only 3 males on the course. one does have to be careful trying to make an arguement were there is not one. i just know its hard being a mature student and having kids and living away would make it much harder.:silenced:

Oldernotwiser

pauletruth wrote: »

sorry to say you are wrong. the ou is now one of the larger unis for training. how do i know well the wife mentors them. the wife also topped her diploma to degree level by them and has done some post gradute training.

The fact remains that you cannot do your pre registration training for nursing with the OU. Topping up to degree level is not at all the same thing as I would expect you to know.

I still think that your examples were stereotypical, regardless of the fact that you're a nurse.

agrinnall

I would think seriously about alternatives to halls, I have just done a Masters degree at 52 and stayed away during the week, returning home at weekends. I found a flatshare (through Gumtree, but watch out for spam adverts) with someone nearer my own age who wasn't a student, I really don't think I would have wanted to live with students 30 years younger than me, it was fine while I was that age but not now.