What would you do?

Jojo_the_Tightfisted

It's her children's only link with their family. If she sells them, they have absolutely nothing.

Seanymph

They are things. Things are replaceable.

If the house was on fire would she rescue her children or the jewellery? Her phone or the jewellery?

My guessing is that the jewellery would be a long way down the list. Often with things like this it comes down to trying to live up to people's expectations of us - and I'm old enough not to give a stuff any more

When my gran died we only had a two bed house, and two toddlers - and no room. Nearly everything she had accumulated in her life we threw away. All her precious things, that she didn't want to sell got binned. She too could have realised some stuff earlier and perhaps had it easier. no idea why she didn't.

What works need doing? Could a skilled friend of a friend do it? Could she approach the local colleges to see if they have about to graduate/newly graduated students in that area looking for work experience? Does she have anything to ebay to keep the money seperately? Or a skill to trade? Or the opportunity to go learn to do it herself? Skilling up is always useful.

So - what works are they?

Sambucus_Nigra

Jojo_the_Tightfisted wrote: »

It's her children's only link with their family. If she sells them, they have absolutely nothing.

Apart from BEING the family.

Emmzi

Jojo_the_Tightfisted wrote: »

It's her children's only link with their family. If she sells them, they have absolutely nothing.

Unless you believe in psychic mumbo jumbo this means nothing. Rings aren't going to make the ghost of great uncle ned appear and tell you where the family treasure is hidden.

People, and people living in a safe warm dry place, are more important than superstition. My mum had to sell jewellry when we were kids. I remember her agonising over it but I was always glad to have the roof foxed and have never pined for old rings.

scheming_gypsy

Savvy_Sue wrote: »

s_g, maybe you have experience of using pawn shops. I don't, but the way I've understood it to work is that you get a fraction of the value of the item lent to you, which you then pay back before you can redeem the item, plus a redemption fee / interest? If you don't redeem the item, it gets sold, although you may be able to extend the period before that happens - at a price.

If she's that desperate for money, how is she ever going to get the money to redeem these rings? In which case it would be FAR better to go into every jeweller in town advertising 'we buy gold' and see who's giving the best price.

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i've never used one but that's pretty much how it works. The point i was making before Lotus Eater started sending it off topic; is that if she isn't sure if she wants to sell them there's the option of the pawn shop.
Yes you don't get full value but you also don't get a gun to the head and forced to hand over your worldly goods for tuppance, if she doesn't like their price and terms then she doesn't have to 'sell'. I shouldn't have needed to explain the ins and outs of it just that the pawn broker is also an option for her if she isn't sure about selling.

Lotus-eater

scheming_gypsy wrote: »

i've never used one but that's pretty much how it works. The point i was making before Lotus Eater started sending it off topic; is that if she isn't sure if she wants to sell them there's the option of the pawn shop.
Yes you don't get full value but you also don't get a gun to the head and forced to hand over your worldly goods for tuppance, if she doesn't like their price and terms then she doesn't have to 'sell'. I shouldn't have needed to explain the ins and outs of it just that the pawn broker is also an option for her if she isn't sure about selling.

It's not off topic, because you brought up the subject of pawn shops.

Your way, she loses, or she loses.

1. She takes rings to pawn shop, gets a lower price than they are worth, decides she wants them back, can't then afford to buy them back (otherwise she wouldn't have to sell them anyway). Lose

1a. Or can afford to buy them back and is now worse off (moneywise) for the experience, lose.

2. Takes rings to pawn shop. pawns them and doesn't want them back. Lose, she's now sold her rings for less than the value she could have got elsewhere.



Go to the pawn shop and get a price, go to anywhere and get a price, then sell them if you want. Pawning something is different to selling and is a mugs game, same as pay day loans, they sit very well together.

Jojo_the_Tightfisted

Sambucus_Nigra wrote: »

Apart from BEING the family.

Emmzi wrote: »

Unless you believe in psychic mumbo jumbo this means nothing. Rings aren't going to make the ghost of great uncle ned appear and tell you where the family treasure is hidden.

People, and people living in a safe warm dry place, are more important than superstition. My mum had to sell jewellry when we were kids. I remember her agonising over it but I was always glad to have the roof foxed and have never pined for old rings.

As is obvious from the history of the OP, people die.

I have nothing to show I ever had a father, grandparents or some other family members. I have a gold plated mechanical pencil that my grandfather owned, however, so everytime I use it, I am putting my hands exactly where he put his. So in some way, it doesn't seem so long ago.

It's got b*gger all to do with psychic charlatans.