Hen Night Worries

Idiophreak

Personally, I think it's very sad when people feel they need to organise their own because they don't trust their bridesmaids etc to organise what they want.
I have two thoughts
1) If the bridesmaids are any good, they'll know that you're serious about not wanting these things and will respect your wishes.
2) If they're not, it's really not the end of the world. The most important thing is that these people are putting in their effort to *try* and give you a find send off into married life. You should appreciate the effort and do your best to stop stressing and just have a good time.

Dekazer

At the risk of sounding a bit mean, why not just chill and show them you trust them? They're your friends, they're probably loving organising you a wonderful hen, and they might well be offended if you insist on getting too involved. If they really know you they'll steer clear of the stripper, but would the odd plastic willy really be such a disaster?

I'd bet my bottom dollar that they're doing something wonderful and you'll love it

nickki44

My hen night is tomorrow night.

I have no idea what we're doing - just that we're meeting at my house at 5.30pm.

My Best friend (my age) - MoH, and (21 year old) sister - BM are jointly organising the evening. I'm 40, and don't drink aside from the very odd glass of wine every now and again, but I trust them to know me well enough to know that drinking games and strippers are NOT what I would enjoy, and that the night should be about me, and my "last" night out with friends as a single woman....

I'll keep you informed, but just relax, trust them and go with the flow xx

kmmr

My sister did a fantastic night out for me. They did arrange a few things I didn't think I would like, but actually on the day everything was heaps of fun and I had a fantastic time. I trusted her from the start, and while I had a few jitters I knew whatever she organised would be fun. It's more about the people in the end than the location and activities.

Although... I must admit I arranged one for a friend a few years ago which was terribly tacky, but even so she admitted parts weren't to her taste (think strippers and 10 other hen nights!), but overall we still had a great and memorable time.