The Tougher Thread continues.....

lizzyb1812

ceridwen - 7weekwonder is right. This will sound blunt - in the circumstances you describe, the first parent's death would be dealt with by you according to the parent's wishes, but the second parent/the estate would be financially responsible. On the occasion of the second parent's death the estate would be responsible. If parents don't want to discuss details now at least try to get them to name a funeral director. I think you'll find that they would wait for payment from the estate.

Sorry if this is too much info but anything that eases the burden of those left behind is worth knowing (not parents in my case)

scottishminnie

Thanks - adding potatoes it is then. I was going to refreeze then add them as I defrosted but I decided the fling it all back in the pan right now with the potatoes. One thing - it can't get any worse!

The jam was strawberry - hubby said not to reboil he is ok with it being liquid so I'll just leave it as it is.

katieowl_2

Strawberry Jam is one of the notoriously tricky ones I believe. I made one batch with Jam Sugar with added pectin, and one without this year. TBH I thought the jam sugar one was a bit weird?

Kate

scottishminnie

katieowl wrote: »

Strawberry Jam is one of the notoriously tricky ones I believe. I made one batch with Jam Sugar with added pectin, and one without this year. TBH I thought the jam sugar one was a bit weird?

Kate

I just used ordinary sugar as the book didn't say jam sugar. I did add powdered pectin as it said. I guess it's trial and error. I do also think sometimes strawberries can be quite wet towards the end of the season if you know what I mean. that may not have helped.

Anyway I'm sure we will eat it just the same. I'm off to have a glass of home made wine which my neighbour dropped off earlier today. She wants a second opinion so I'll have to be sure to drink enough to give a qualified view:D

Gingermillie

ginnyknit wrote: »

Gingermillie that sounds like a fab funeral, if there is such a thing - or should I say fitting!(

It was. In true OS style I nearly took the veg home with me!
And following on from the "whose responsibility is it to pay" it fell to me to sort it out (mum died 19 years ago & I'm an only child). Dad's estate was small and there was no will so no probate or solicitors needed. There was also no money in his bank account. I honestly thought I'd pay for it myself until I found some life insurance paperwork for him and then cried with relief.

HariboJunkie

ceridwen wrote: »

"I know some existing posters are feeling a bit offput at the moment - but please DO come back". .:)

Oh. I didn't know that anyone was "offput" by the thread.

OH took me out for a meal tonight. I'm just in and was going to post but am wary now if the new thread is putting people off. I thought it was lovely to see so many new posters and I hope they don't feel "offput" to hear that regulars have stopped posting.

I really wasn't aware that anyone other than Kittie had stopped posting (which was the case before this new thread was started) but I could well be wrong.

Night all. x

ginnyknit

That must have been scary gingermillie, thank goodness you found the papers. I have OH well insured but am worried about a missing bit of NI payment from when he worked abroad. Must chase that up. I am sounding awfully cold I guess but when your OH is in the position he is I have to have things sorted or it will be the poor house for me and the cats! He does find it re-assuring knowing most things are sorted. I think having lost so many relatives and him being in charge of 3 aunts, and his Mum and Dads funerals you have a practical take on things - no less full of grief though.

His fishing trip wore him out thank goodness so he is sleeping soundly for a change. Give him chance to re charge his Duracells. I did well in the whoopsie department at Mr A today, so after a curry consisting of everything left lying about we have a nicely stocked fridge.

charlies-aunt

Gingermillie wrote: »

And following on from the "whose responsibility is it to pay"

If you die in hospital and leave no estate/funds and your relatives are unable or unwilling to pay for a funeral, it is the responsibility of the hospital to pay for a basic funeral. They pay for the services of the funeral director, standard (but respectable looking) coffin, hearse to take it from the hospital, crem/burial costs but relatives don't get any say in any of these arrangements but they can attend the service, send flowers and arrange for a service if they are willing to pay the minister.

If you die at home and leave no estate/funds, the local council are also responsible in the same way if relatives are unable or unwilling - but in both instances both the hospital/council can sell anything (including assets that are 'willed' to relatives) that you leave behind to raise money to cover the funeral costs.

I would like to reassure anyone who is in the predictament of not being able to fund a loved ones funeral that - regardless of who is funding the funeral - all 'customers' are treated with the same care, dignity and respect by the FD.

SDG31000

scottishminnie I make deliberately unset strawberry jam with added balsamic vinegar. We put it on pancakes and cakes and it works really well on pavlova.

Well it's now half term here and DH has the week off. Unfortunately that means that his body has decided he now has time to be ill and has come down with the lurgy So no visit to see nursey3 and the bouncy one *sobs*
Also his work is being a pain and is paying out the expenses with no rhyme or reason or logic that can understood by anyone. It's frustrating in that we know they are coming, but have no idea when or how much.
Dinner tonight was a successful experiment. I had brought frozen hot and spicy pork steaks when Sainsburys reduced them down to £1 for 4. So I part cooked them and topped them with fried onions, peppers, mushrooms and cheese. Then finished cooking them and served with chips and sweetcorn. Even fussy DS1 ate it.
Thankfully we are warm, safe and have enough food to last until payday, so it could be much worse.
Hugs to those that want them. Take care xxxx

Gingermillie

There's nothing cold in being organised. I've given the bloke instructions on what I'd want to happen to me, all my financial stuff is sorted into folders for household, personal, paid off etc. Need to sort a will out as the house is mine and we're not married so it'd be him & the dog homeless if I did get squished by a bus tomorrow.