Ok its not xmas making orientated but . . .

Sambucus_Nigra

Spendless wrote: »

I think it was a bit optimistic to think a 10yo would still believe- sorry.:o Especially a boy, they are not usually into fantasy and make-believe, well not unless it's star wars and dr who.

Um, boys are SO into make believe - just not stuff that is pink and fluffy.

Spendless

Sambucus_Nigra wrote: »

Um, boys are SO into make believe - just not stuff that is pink and fluffy.

I don't have one that is, not at 10 or 11, neither are his friends or peer-group. In the playground they play footie, at home they mix science experiments using the contents of my cupboard. My 8yo dd however makes up stories surrounding her littlest pet shop toys, and plays 'x factor' with her mates at school.

Giggles_Fairy

The magic of christmas changes when you 'realise' Father Christmas isnt 'real'. The magic comes from the excitement, the joy of giving as well as receiving, of getting time off school or work, watching christmas films curled up under a blanket with a cup of hot chocolate, playing in snow, sending cards to family and friends, seeing relatives you may not see as often, playing silly games and laughing till your stomach aches. Everyone is just so much happier at christmas arent they?

It doesnt mean its less special or magical, it just changes. And as many have said, I think children tend to humour parents for a few years anyway and actually 'know' a long time before they admit it. I can understand you may feel sad but try to remember the other joy that your son can know experience with christmas, maybe get him involved in keeping the magic alive for his younger sister.

Have to say i think the day I truely realised he wasnt real was one christmas when I wrapped up a bottle of Babysham that had been in a display cabinet for several years for Father Christmas on christmas eve.... and a few days later it was back in there hahaha

Ah I love Christmas

macchicken

Those who never look for magic will never find it!
Get your son in on the game, make it magic for the little one. Excitement is infectious even if he doesn't believe he cab still enjoy the magic!

westcoastscot

When my eldest told me santa wasn't real I acted really shocked, and refused to believe him - ditto my other children - now they're all grown up and we still have santa - not sure that they are really convinced whether I honestly believe or not!!!!!!, but they take a lot of care not to burst my bubble

WCS :-)

jakes-mum

aww you've all made me giggle with your stories, in truth ive ad an inkling he knew for a few years but even when we discussed it and said 'I dont think Santa is real its you' when I asked 'when did you know' he went 'ahh so it IS you!' and laughed. I know he will keep it going for his sister, he adores her bless him, and be excited by the presents its just that loss of innocence.

I must admit when I finally decided that Father Christmas was my dad, I stayed awake till my parents went to bed, I remember hearing footsteps coming up the stairs and I was suddenly very aware that a stranger could be about to enter my bedroom :eek: was so relieved when it was my dad :rotfl:

I cant have him eat the mince pie as 1) he's a coeliac so pastry is a nono and 2) he dont like them. Plus though I know he's past it, I still want him to be surprised by it all, if that even makes sense

Im not sure its actually a bit depressed at him not believing or the huge realisation hes growing up, as he's my first its a bit more awful (though i'll prob be just as bad when DD gets to this stage too :rotfl:) I still tell them both I believe but the reason I dont get presents is cos their gran rang him and told him I was naughty :rotfl:

Gleek

jakes-mum wrote: »

I still tell them both I believe but the reason I dont get presents is cos their gran rang him and told him I was naughty :rotfl:

:rotfl: :rotfl: :rotfl:

I honestly can't remember ever believing in santa, I think mum and dad wanted us to know where stuff came from (or rather, who had paid :rotfl: )

Sambucus_Nigra

Spendless wrote: »

I don't have one that is, not at 10 or 11, neither are his friends or peer-group. In the playground they play footie, at home they mix science experiments using the contents of my cupboard. My 8yo dd however makes up stories surrounding her littlest pet shop toys, and plays 'x factor' with her mates at school.

Dungeons and dragons, Sci-Fi, making and playing with meccano and lego; and that's just the start.

ClaireLD_2

I know how you feel

My eldest DD 9 asked me the same question last night and I didn't know what to say - I think she still wants to believe but she has friends at school that have told her "Santas not real".

I also have a DD nearly 3 so we still have lots of magic to look forward to - all I said was I still believe. I don't want her to look silly at school so I am torn.

Debnatric

My DD who will be 11 this December asked me last month whether Father Christmas was real or not. She started by say ' I know you would never lie to me cos that would be very bad - but is FC real?' I was mortified, my OH just looked at me and said 'Over to you I think'

So I has to confess the truth to her - and she just burst into tears and said so what about the tooth fairy and the Easter bunny?

To be honest I think we were lucky to get to nearly 11 without her finding out.