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Ex parents in law will

Hi

When I was married my in-laws asked me to be an executor of their will.

As I am no longer married to their daughter I am wondering if I still have any responsibilities etc.

Our divorce was clean break so I am not worried about any of the assets etc just want to make sure there are no come backs to me.

Any ideas?

Comments

  • McKneff
    McKneff Posts: 38,857 Forumite
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    Ring them and ask them.

    If you dont actually want to be an executor, tell them that too.
    make the most of it, we are only here for the weekend.
    and we will never, ever return.
  • Annisele
    Annisele Posts: 4,835 Forumite
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    If their most recent will names you as executor, then the fact that you're no longer married to their daughter is irrelevant.

    If they die with you still named as executor, then you don't have to act. However, if you don't want to do it (entirely understandably!) then you should tell them so whilst they still have chance to choose the person they'd want instead.
  • Sadly speaking with them or my ex is not an option - apparently I am the spawn of Satan and my name must never be uttered!

    The usual response I get is - "you need to find out" all correspondence is via text - childish to say the least but that is what she wants!!!
  • Errata
    Errata Posts: 38,230 Forumite
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    They may have made new wills naming other executors. In any case, you can decline to act when the time comes, a simple and straightforward process.
    .................:)....I'm smiling because I have no idea what's going on ...:)
  • meritaten
    meritaten Posts: 24,158 Forumite
    not your problem! If they havent changed thier will by the time they die - then you just renounce being an executor! very simple, you only have inform the solicitors then sign a form!
  • Savvy_Sue
    Savvy_Sue Posts: 47,903 Forumite
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    If you can't ask them, I'd write and state that you assume they will have appointed new executors, and that you would renounce if this has not happened by the time they die.

    I'd soften it by hoping they are well, and that the situation isn't likely to arise soon in any event. ;)
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  • NAR
    NAR Posts: 4,865 Forumite
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    OP do you want to avoid any contact with any likely beneficiaries ie your ex? If not think of the fun you could have acting as executor, having your ex-relations running around after you with their hands out. :devil: :rotfl:
  • JimmyTheWig
    JimmyTheWig Posts: 12,199 Forumite
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    Agree with Savvy Sue (and NAR for comedy potential). Just let them know that you won't be doing it and leave it to them.
  • RichGold
    RichGold Posts: 1,244 Forumite
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    Sadly speaking with them or my ex is not an option - apparently I am the spawn of Satan and my name must never be uttered!

    The usual response I get is - "you need to find out" all correspondence is via text - childish to say the least but that is what she wants!!!
    I think I might have dated your ex in the late 90's.....
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