Please can anybody help me !!

walks

I will try and make this as short as i can, as i can not see keys for tears,
I left my husband 10yrs ago for this Man, I never divorce, as we where not planning on getting Married so i just left it at that, But have said i now want one,

Now my partner has told me that our relationship is over, i am gutted .

My problem now is we have a bungalow that we purchased two yrs ago but i did not have my name on the mortgage, i put down a lump sum, and pay him by direct debit my share.

We are still in the bungalow and he is Awful with me and goes away most wk ends he says to his sister, but I know for a fact this is not true.

Shall i not go through my divorce until i have settled this with my ex partner, or should i get my divorce sorted first. I am sorry if non of this makes sense, But i am in such a mess.
I am 55 and he is 56
any advice would be more than welcome thank you in advance.

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Gillyx

You really need to go and see a lawyer. Most offer 30 minutes free consultation.

harrys_nan

not much help,but why was you never on the mortgage?? Have you any proof that you put money into the deposit?
If I was you I would get help from a solicitor re this problem before you think even think about a divorce from your husband. Go get yourself a free half hour and see what you can find out
Very sorry about the situation your now in.
Get help quick

gonzo127

i personally see them as 2 seperate problems so i feel you should try and deal with them seperate. personally i would try and sort out this current relationship break up first as that is the biggest priority as in all reality the marriage/devoice aspect has waited 10 years so i am sure it can wait a little while longer.

however as others have said try and get to see a lawer/solicitor as soon as possible so you can get your 'position' more secured in regards to the bungalow etc, try to write a list of questions that are important to you and add to it as and when things occur to you, then just before you go to your appointment with the lawer/solicitor mark the questions into a order of importance, so you can try and ask the most important questions first and do not get side tracked

walks

Thank you for your quick replies, I have just made app to see a solicitor on Monday ,And my Brother is coming with me has i can hardly speak let alone take much in.

I was never put on the deeds because, if anything had happened to me i was worried my family would take it of my partner, i have or he has a document to say i would get thirty% has that is what i put in and only got bank statements to prove i have been giving him x amount of money a month.

I can`t believe how stupid i have been, I lost everything for this man, Both of my children hate me. I lost my friends and alot of my Family and only got my brother to help me, but he does not really want to get involved, I am at my wits end.

Thank you.
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Seanymph

The problem is what you have accrued since (your share of the bungalow) will now be considered assets as far as your divorce is concerned.

If you are unlucky you will get 50% of them awarded to the husband you are divorcing and yet walk away without that to give him if your partner fleeces you.

You need legal advice, and quickly.