civil marriage ceremony

lollol

ettiquette regarding gifts.

shellsuit

What is it you want to know?

I don't see any difference between a civil and normal marriage regarding gifts.

Torry_Quine

shellsuit wrote: »

What is it you want to know?

I don't see any difference between a civil and normal marriage regarding gifts.

I agree, why should the venue and type of marriage make any diference?

lollol

My cousin would like cash in lieu of gifts. how can we word this in the invitation? thanks

whitewing

I personally wouldn't say anything. At our wedding (not civil ceremony) most gave cash or cheques, a few gave actual presents but we didn't have a wedding list. If people aren't sure they'll give cash.

Torry_Quine

lollol wrote: »

My cousin would like cash in lieu of gifts. how can we word this in the invitation? thanks

That's a huge can of worms and the wording depends on the couple. Some people include poems and others hate them.

Still don't see what being a civil ceremony means to it though.

shellsuit

lollol wrote: »

My cousin would like cash in lieu of gifts. how can we word this in the invitation? thanks

I wouldn't, only as I think it is rude to ask for money and can't think of a polite way to ask.

MrsDrink

Torry_Quine wrote: »

That's a huge can of worms.

:rotfl::rotfl::rotfl::rotfl::rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:
Understatement!!

MaggieBaking

Etiquette-ly speaking, you can't ask for cash. Etiquette-ly speaking you can't ask for gifts or a gift list either.

If you are asked what you would like, you can ettiquette-ly respond "thank you for asking, we have a gift list at John Lewis/a cheque would be nice to put towards our honeymoon."

Strictly in the etiquette sense.

Of course nowadays it is very common to have a large amount of info in the invitation, like maps and things and some people do write their request in there. Or add in a small card in with the invitation, business card sized usually. Often a request for money is in the form of some ditty.

Others link to a wedding website and write their gift requests in there.

stir_crazy

You can just choose to leave it off of the invitation. My cousin did, and when we weren't sure what to get, I asked and she replied that she did have a gift list, but it was fine if we wanted to give the happy couple money. I ended up giving them spending money for their homeymoon.

minerva_windsong

I agree with those who said leave it off the invitation - both my sisters did that and people just asked them or my mum what they wanted (they had small gift lists for people who wanted to get them presents but generally asked for charity donations, and got some off-list gifts and vouchers as well).