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Life is about choices, not getting everything you want. You've made the choice to have children rather than have a mortgage, no one can say whether it was a good or wrong decision. It could have been a bad one in some people's eyes if it means you will never be able to afford your own home and are instead just thowing money away, but it might have been the right decision. Some people make the choice to get the mortgage first, get a very nice home and when they get to the stage of the baby making, find out it doesn't happen and are devastated and regret not having tried for a baby sooner.
You are also making the choice for your wife not to go back to work. Again, some would support that position, putting babies in nursery and long days for older children are not worthy a better salary, some don't think it do kids any harm, get a better income and can afford things others can't.
If you are not happy with your situation, reconsider your choice and make changes with what you can change.0 -
Look for a second job, or create your own - I know plenty of people who are in part-time self-employment (tutors, web designers, even magicians), have you considered that? You might want to ask around friends and colleagues too - they might know someone looking for handy help here and there if you fit the bill.
I realise that having kids puts you in a difficult position, but to my mind the only resource you can convert to money is your free time. And if you want it that much, sacrificing a little time now will pay dividends in the long run!0 -
You just have to be patient unfortunately, work your way up the job ladder, and these days it's unlikely you'll get anywhere on one salary.0
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