Struggling on student loan!

DCFC79

It may be hard in the NE but no harm in trying, if you have the experience you are more likely to get chosen if the other candidates have zero experience. Ive recently started back in retail(food) which wasnt hard, i was a bit worried i wouldnt be offered the job. I dont live in the NE but no harm in trying.

sazdz17

Nirvana9 wrote: »

Okay perhaps I shouldn't have said you 'will' be able to get one. There's of course no certs in life and I'm sorry your daughter has struggled so hard.

My main point was that it doesn't sound as if the op has tried that hard to get a job. To get a job in this market you do need to try hard, put yourself out there, make yourself stand out and take what you can get (has your daughter tried call centres? They vary in awfulness but they're always hiring people).

I just think some people give up too easily, and it sounds this way in regards to the op...

i appreciate the lecture that everyone is giving me about finding a job when i have tried...
this goes for everyone, do not judge and assume you know everything about someones situation when im asking for help on something else. I have severe depression and im finding it very difficult to find motivation to carry on with daily tasks in life, and now that i have someone whom is now dependent on me, it makes life incredibly hard. I can't manage things, i need help, so i came on here hoping people would help me. But now i only feel embarrassed and humiliated and made to look like im some sort of lazy bum who hasn't even tried to look for a job. Im only 20 years old, Im still young and im finding it very hard to stabilize myself let alone someone else, I have no parents to support me and i had no choice in the matter in moving in with my partner, as i couldn't afford to live by myself, so in theory we were hoping to split the cost of everything to make it easier for us both!!!!!!!

This has given me great reason to not use these forums again.

saintjammyswine

Dont take the posts too personally, contact the University and speak to them about their hardship fund. Speak to the student services team (may be called something different there) as they will be able to signpost you to someone who can offer some help if they cant.

miss_duke

I have no idea why you are being so defensive!

Have you looked at different options, such as babysitting, ironing for people etc?

Edited because I hadn't seen your last post!

miss_duke

Having read about your depression I would say this stress is the last thing you need. As above, speak to uni. If they cannot help and you are def getting all the benefits you are entitled to, and theres def nothing your partner can do to help... then if it gets to the stage were you REALLY can no longer continue, I would def consider defering your degree for a year if you can. Are you likely to get FT work though? What is your degree in? I would give a lot of thought to whether the degree will be particularly 'useful' longterm if you see what I mean? As you know some are and some aren't, but only you know if its worth the stress hon xxx

DCFC79

sazdz17 wrote: »

i appreciate the lecture that everyone is giving me about finding a job when i have tried...
this goes for everyone, do not judge and assume you know everything about someones situation when im asking for help on something else. I have severe depression and im finding it very difficult to find motivation to carry on with daily tasks in life, and now that i have someone whom is now dependent on me, it makes life incredibly hard. I can't manage things, i need help, so i came on here hoping people would help me. But now i only feel embarrassed and humiliated and made to look like im some sort of lazy bum who hasn't even tried to look for a job. Im only 20 years old, Im still young and im finding it very hard to stabilize myself let alone someone else, I have no parents to support me and i had no choice in the matter in moving in with my partner, as i couldn't afford to live by myself, so in theory we were hoping to split the cost of everything to make it easier for us both!!!!!!!

This has given me great reason to not use these forums again.

why do you feel embarrassed and humiliated,

do you live in newcastle or not, theres jobs in newcastle, i found a bar job earlier

looby75

DCFC79 wrote: »

why do you feel embarrassed and humiliated,

do you live in newcastle or not, theres jobs in newcastle, i found a bar job earlier

just because you found a bar job it doesn't mean that the OP will get it or that it will be suitable hours wise etc.

My daughter applied for a 12 hour sales assistant job in our local co-op a month ago, she got an interview and the Manager who interviewed her told her that she had recieved over 200 applications for the 2 jobs on offer. Competition is high for every single job at the moment.

Obviously I'm not saying that means don't try, you will never get a job if you don't try but it's really really hard right now, especially in the North East.

DCFC79

looby75 wrote: »

just because you found a bar job it doesn't mean that the OP will get it or that it will be suitable hours wise etc.

My daughter applied for a 12 hour sales assistant job in our local co-op a month ago, she got an interview and the Manager who interviewed her told her that she had recieved over 200 applications for the 2 jobs on offer. Competition is high for every single job at the moment.

Obviously I'm not saying that means don't try, you will never get a job if you don't try but it's really really hard right now, especially in the North East.

i was using it as an example, i hadnt looked through every 1,

just trying to help,

looby75

DCFC79 wrote: »

i was using it as an example, i hadnt looked through every 1,

just trying to help,

sorry I didn't mean to sound like I was having a go! I realise you were trying to be helpful.

I suppose it's a bit of a touchy subject for me as both me and dd are looking for work without success, I get a bit tired of people telling me it must be because I/she's not trying hard enough.

If only it was that black and white

bristol_pilot

All over the country couples are 'splitting up' and living separately to maximise their benefits so someone clearly advised you very badly when they told you to move in together. Students are expected to house-share with other students and have very little claim on the benefits system and thats what you should do if you want to study and your partner should make his own arrangements. Doesn't stop you seeing each other of course. Getting a pt job might not be the answer if you continue to live together as it will reduce partner's benefits.