Do I adivse people of the food for the wedding with the invite?

srlgh

Just thinking.... is it normal to advise of the menu for the wedding with the invite?

Our's is a set menu and obviously I will ask anyone with dietry needs or those who are vegan/vegetarian to advise me, but is it normal to include a menu to advise of the food being served for the wedding breakfast and the vegetarian option?

I've only been to wedding's where there's been a choice of starters and mains etc but our's is soup, roast turkey, profiteroles, then nuggets and chips for children (could have had small version of the adults meals but most of the children don't like roast dinners oddly lol)

White_Sapphire

I've never been informed of a menu beforehand for a wedding. There's enough info to try to get onto an invite as it is!

crapwithcash82

I've never had that in a wedding invite either, usually the reception staff just come out and serve, when its a set menu. As you said, if you are asking about dietary requirements, anyone who is veggie etc will have had the opportunity to let you know their needs!

Angel_of_Tomfoolery

Tbh I think it's asking for trouble to let people know in advance - it gives them time to complain lol. Even if it's not their thing, on the day most will just get on with it and eat around what they don't like.

ellay864

We only have one choice basically - take it or leave it! We have a veggie option as well the main course that we chose...we didn't seek anyone else's opinions when choosing what we'd have for the main though we did take certain things into consideraion (like knowing what our mums and kids like). What we have done just now though is e-mail people telling them what the main is and what the veggie option is as some may just choose the veggie option anyway.

TheSeventh

We'll be asking people if they want chicken, salmon or veggie tartlet (and whether they'd like hog roast or chilli beans and jacket potato in the evening) because we're self-catering and need to know roughly how much of each to buy and prepare! I suppose it'd only be another line or so to mention what else we'll be serving for the wedding breakfast.

I've had wedding invitations where I had to choose from three options for each course, so that was a natural way of informing people of the menu. I think giving people a rough idea of what you're planning to serve them (we're having jacket potatoes and a host of salads, pastas, breads and accompaniments) because if it's something a guest knows they won't like, they'll be fore-warned to eat at home before they leave so they're not starving through your nice dinner!

I wouldn't accept any moaning or whining about my meal choices though - I'm going to great lengths to accommodate pesketarians, vegetarians, vegans diabetics and people with serious allergies; I'll tell them what to expect and if they don't like it, they can sort themselves out. No one is getting special treatment because they "don't like" potatoes, or whatever.

srlgh

Thank you. Will just ask for any dietary requirements then. Thank you

RainbowDrops

I think it's fine to do either - we had duck & told people on the invites, and as it turns out, 2 meat eaters went for veggie as they aren't keen on duck.
On the flipside, we went to a wedding yesterday also serving duck, but they didn't add it to the invites. However, one of the people from our wedding who didn't like duck had selected the veggie option regardless at yesterdays wedding, so she wasn't affected either way.

POPPYOSCAR

I know people usually don't do it, but I think it would be nice if they did.

I have no problem with the food not being to my liking but I would welcome the chance to have something to eat beforehand if I know that I will not be eating much at the reception.

Hollie84

No you choose the meal unless the veggies.im only having 37 in the day so will ask the ones im not sure about if they eat chicken,we only have 1 veggie but he eats fish so will have salmon

Emmylou_2

If you're only having one choice, just ask for veggies/allergies etc. We're going to have two choices plus veggie (I love fish, OH hates it, I like mushrooms, he hates it, he likes black pudding & pork belly, I hate it) because otherwise we'd end up with something neither of us really like.