Don't want to send my wife back to work after baby

izzieprest

best time to test it is on maternity leave, as you will get used to living off a bit less. if you have 2 cars consider getting rid of 1, this will save you a FORTUNE. (were doing this as were due our 2nd in october) im going to walk everywhere and hoepfully lose weight and actually look nice for my man lol

2ndly you may not be able to afford for her to stay home, but like wise you may not be able to afford her to work nursery and child care fees are stupid at the moment. if i had my time over with my eldest id have just stayed home with her i missed out so much and weirdly you learn to live off what you have. sacrefices are made, eg no virgin tv, no 2nd car, no posh swanky holidays each year but that can come later when the children are older x

MRSTITTLEMOUSE

Hammyman wrote: »

Time to start banging in the overtime if thats what you want to do.

Actually thats what my husband did as I could never have left my children in the care of anyone else.
We managed.
You have to live within your means and "cut your cloth accordingly" as the old saying goes but it is possible to do.
You just have to decide what your priorities are.
Good luck to you both with the new baby.

Blobby8_2

Depends really on whether the mother :-
1)is a traditional maternal type.
2) hasnt been convinced by the rest of society that she is a lesser person for wanting to bring up her children traditionally.
My wife wanted to stay at home , and did until our youngest started school, she then helped out at the local playgroup and still does (16 years) .If she wants to she can pack it in - she goes because she enjoys it.
WE have discussed it many times, she enjoyed working pre kids & the £££ was a help but to go back now would require a large number of wild horses.
She sites, office politics, catty women, dress/make up competition, lack of freedom, fewer holidays, etc ad nauseum.
As I understand it looking after children give NI credits and you only need 30 years.

anxious_mum

When I was expecting my first son I was in the happy position of not having to go back to work as my (then) husband earned a very good wage and, financially, it wasn't necessary. Having worked since I was 16 I so looked forward to not having to work, and being a SAHM. I managed six months. The reality of being isolated with a tiny baby wasn't for me, and I was desperate to get back to work. Luckily, my mum looked after my son (she was paid to do so) and I got my career and my sanity back on track.

I think you probably need to see how things pan out, your wife might not like being a SAHM and may need the stimulation of adult company. My son is 18 now and I don't think he missed out too much on me 'leaving' him when he was 6 months old.