Injuction??

claireukgirl

I left my partner due to his violent moods swings when i told him it was over he punched me in face and kicked me while i was down on the floor, i was left with a black eye for a few weeks.

I thought that would be the end to it , but he keeps now sending non stop emails and texs, also saying he wants to see me dead rather then see me with somebody else, also he claims he is going to kill himself and tells all lies to try and get a reponse, i have not responded to him at all.

Friends told me to get an Injuction, i contacted a lawyer and he took a statement, but now im worried if it will make him worse or if he will try and get me back some how.

will he have to appear in court? i dont want to see him ever again

Also he knows my age but not my full date of birth will get given this as im worried if i move that he could track me in the future.

I was told they will remove my address but i forget to ask about my date of birth and also my middle names as i dont want him knowing these either.


Also would i have to go to court, i was nearvous and embrassed and i forgot some of what i got told by the lawyer.

I cant even go to places i use to go as he goes to my local venues that i use to attend but they said the injuction cant stop him going to the same places that i go to, so not sure if its worth me going ahead with all this.

Its been like 7 days since his last threat so i am not sure why all of a sudden he as stopped as now he is sending kisses and sending messages acting as if nothing ever happened.

go_cat

I think you should also be reporting his threats to the police

claireukgirl

go_cat wrote: »

I think you should also be reporting his threats to the police

My friend is taking me soon, i felt too embrassed before about it all and just wanted it to all go away, thought if i never spoke or had to deal with him again he would leave me alone , but no such luck:(

go_cat

Don't be embarrassed the police are used to advising on situations like this and can advice the best course of action - you need a formal record that he is making these threats

Have you kept the texts it would help if you had these

Good luck

BugglyB

I would get some help from a specialist domestic abuse service alongside going to the police.

If you dont know of any in your area, the police will advise you, or ring victim support or womens aid.

Little_Leita

Use whatever means are available to you to keep this horrible man away from you sweetheart. Sod him and his feelings - your safety is paramount.

DS4215

Speak to your phone companies and get a new number. Only give this out to your friends/family that you trust and ask them not to pass it on to anyone.

January20

I don't have any advice claire but just wanted to say that it's not you that you should be embarrassed. You have done nothing wrong. It's him who should be embarrassed and ashamed of his behaviour.

I hope you have kept all evidence re texts and messages. Before you go to the police, draw up a list of what you need to say and ask and what you need to take along and then make sure you take copies of the emails and your mobile with the text.

Then can you set up another email address and get another sim card? It's a pain but if it stop him getting in touch with you it's worth it.

adamantine

you wont be granted the injunction till you have explored all other options (im tyring to go through this at the moment with my ex-husband)

you need to show you have taken all reasonable steps to stop the contact with this person like blocking their email address, changing your landline and mobile numbers, explicitly telling them in a recordable manner (text or email) not to contact you anymore and reporting this threatening behaviour to the police before a judge will look at granting an injunction. also you need to get an injunction then get a power of arrest attached to it so something can be done should he break it.

you need to remember that the injunction is just a piece of paper and nothing that will actually stop him contacting you. just coz he has this served on him doesnt mean he will pay attention to it. one of my solicitors clients ex-partners has a injunction on her ex and every 2-3 weeks he visits her, gets arrested and released in the morning.

i think the best thing you can do is report this all to the police and change all your numbers etc.

Darlyd

I had an injunction against my ex no problem at all.

When he attacked me for the last time, I made a statement to the police to get him arrested and he served 9 days on remand, and then i got an injunction where he could not come within a certain mile radius to me, basically meant he could not stay in my home town. I was lucky though, because during this period he ended up going to prison for 8 months due to something else, and when he came out he moved to the next town anyway.

Please go to the police, not sure if it's to late, I am sure it can be up to 6 mnths to press charges, as long as you have proof of him attacking you, but you really should of reported it there and then, I know it was probably hard for you, I been there, but thee last time he did it, was just the last straw as I was pregnant, But I was so strong with my friends around me, and his 2 faced sister who helped me, and then helped him. tutt..

Good luck hun xxx