Moving in with my boyfriend - benefits advice needed!

ohsoprecious

McKneff wrote: »

Its a myth about the three days/nights, lots of other things are taken into consideration.

If you loved each other enough to want to move intogether money wouldnt come into it, as long as you managed on what you will have,
Just my slant on it anyway.

Well singularly we are ***just*** managing, hence the need to consider the financial implications of moving in together.

In an ideal world, I agree, nothing else would matter but love

P x

McKneff

Yes, I understand that but you are both obvously paying 2 rents/mortgage, 2 sep utility bills, (2 standing charges etc) 2 lots singularly of everything.

Theres the saying Two can live as cheaply as one' not quite true but if your living together your bills would be a lot less than you are paying now.

Ames

McKneff wrote: »

Yes, I understand that but you are both obvously paying 2 rents/mortgage, 2 sep utility bills, (2 standing charges etc) 2 lots singularly of everything.

Theres the saying Two can live as cheaply as one' not quite true but if your living together your bills would be a lot less than you are paying now.

Not when she's living with her mum, and therefore presumably not paying rent, utilities etc.

OP, would it be possible for you to get even a part time job? It shouldn't be hard to get something to make up the £53 a week. Bar work etc, and it'll give you something to do when your partner is away. It gets pretty lonely stuck in a house on your own, especially when you're already down about not working and things.

ERICS_MUM

McKneff wrote: »

Its a myth about the three days/nights, lots of other things are taken into consideration.

If you loved each other enough to want to move intogether money wouldnt come into it, as long as you managed on what you will have,
Just my slant on it anyway.

From an emotional viewpoint you are right of course, but we all know that financial difficulties can put a strain on even the closest of relationships.

The OP and her OH are being wise in considering their position - only they can know how they would manage practically. She is quite rightly wanting to manage on current means rather than looking to fund their lifestyle through more benefits or debt.

Linda xx

Oldernotwiser

Ames wrote: »

Not when she's living with her mum, and therefore presumably not paying rent, utilities etc.

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Why would you make that assumption when she receives JSA to enable her to do just that?

Mupette

OP

Its the seasonal staff time of year, there are going to be loads of jobs on offer, i've even sent my 16 year old to argos to get a chrismas job,

Sometimes we have to lower our standards if it means food on our plates

Nuclear_Themes

I hope you don't mind me asking but you mentioned your boyfriend is a freelancer, what type of freelancer is he?

Sixer

You could probably earn £53 a week and still search for full-time work by doing mystery shopping and online mystery shopping and/or combined with other part-time online work. See the Up Your Income board for ideas. If you want to move in with your boyfriend, there will be a way to make it work.

Antimony

ohsoprecious wrote: »

If I were to move in would I still be able to claim JSA? And would there be a change in the amount of WTC that my boyfriend receives?

Thanks in advance,
P x

ohsoprecious wrote: »

Thank you, I will have a look on that website.

I have always been honest about my circumstances when visiting the job centre and I have been advised that if I stay more than 3 nights a week at my boyfriends then I will be classed as living with him and then my JSA will stop, so I don't stay more than this as I simply cant afford to lose my JSA.
P x

I'm a tad confused. In your first post you ask if you'd lose your JSA, yet it appears you'd already obtained the answer from the Job Centre..?

lilmofie84

If you are living rent free with your parents with no outgoings then personally I would stay put until you have found work. Otherwise you'll be left asking for money off your partner which I personally find a little degrading. Just MHO. You won't be able to claim anything as far as I'm aware. I find it ludicrous that your entitlement could be affected depending on the time you spend with your partner at his house but it IS true. I asked the very same question recently to an JC advisor and was told if we spent more time together than apart then we have to make a joint claim.