I miss my Grandad :(

Darlyd

11 years he has been gone for.

He was a big man, sat in door way of caravan with his belly touching the floor, everyone called him teddy for that reason, he sat there making clothes, he was amazing. He was so quiet, but everyone respected him and darn t mess with him.

I remember coming back from the fair one night, and I stood on a broken milk bottle, everyone laughed at my pain, and he nursed me.

Grandparents fell out with my Dad (their only son, had 6 girls), and we never knew he was dying until a week before he passed, my last memory of him is of him being very skinny and in hospital shoeing us all away with his stick, but hey at least I got a cuddle, and he got to meet his first granddaughter.

Am sorry but I am having an emotional day today..

RIP everyone who has lost their lives..... :A

I miss him dearly. And now my nanna is getting on, and losing her marbles..

Wish we could all have a stop watch and never grow any older, with our health intact..

System

*hugs*

It's been 10 years since i lost my grandad and it still feels like yesterday. I remember my grandparents were supposed to come on holiday with us but my nan was ill so they didn't. We came back and i remember my mum telling me he had lung cancer, a week later she told me it was terminal. I saw him on the monday and it was heartbreaking as he looked so ill and frail, but i'm glad i got to tell him i loved him and say goodbye. He got taken into hospital that weekend and died the wednesday after.

They say it gets easier with time but i still miss him so much.

Darlyd

Am so sorry for your loss too.. God I hate change.

Worst of all I hate knowing that someone else dear to me will lose their life, and I will have to deal with it as best as I can, but I do miss my Granddad so very much. Wish we had longer, he was only 67 !!!!!!. He died of Cancer, Docs fobbed him off for ages, his cancer was caused when he worked the mines...

Sadly he was cremated and scattered, so I can't visit him. Only my Nanna BUT she does not know who I am. Buddy heart breaking.

System

darlyd wrote: »

Am so sorry for your loss too.. God I hate change.

Worst of all I hate knowing that someone else dear to me will lose their life, and I will have to deal with it as best as I can, but I do miss my Granddad so very much. Wish we had longer, he was only 67 !!!!!!. He died of Cancer, Docs fobbed him off for ages, his cancer was caused when he worked the mines...

Sadly he was cremated and scattered, so I can't visit him. Only my Nanna BUT she does not know who I am. Buddy heart breaking.

My nan lived for another 6 years, i was heartbroken to lose her too but i could get some comfort in knowing they were back together.

I find July really hard to cope with as both of them died in July. My mum (her parents) doesn't pay any attention to the death anniversary so i don't feel like i can talk to her about it (and i'm always afraid of upsetting her).

I feel really guilty as since my nan died i haven't been able to bring myself to visit their grave, i just can't bring myself to do it. It probably sounds stupid but this year i got some paper lanterns. I wrote what i wanted to say to them on them, then let them off. In a weird way it helped.

If i had a garden (and permenent home-i rent) i'd love to plant a plant for them, so in a way i'd have somewhere private to go and think about them-could you do something like that?

Darlyd

Where they lived is closed down now, the whole site been abandoned OR I would of planted something there. My Dad is a very private man, and don't talk about it either.

My Granddad was very spiritual, his mum used to spooks us all and tell us what he was saying on the other side, he never liked my DH, lol.. But sadly she has gone now, age 99, just gave up. BUT Because of their religion, I could write on a lantern or paper and set it off.... I could also do it for my cousin too, she died when I was a kid, she is buried though, but I would need to find out where, god we were close too, my granddad used to say I was her shadow.. lol..

angchris

my dad died in may. it`s my birthday today, i can`t see myself wanting to celebrate much later on!

System

angchris wrote: »

my dad died in may. it`s my birthday today, i can`t see myself wanting to celebrate much later on!

Sorry for your loss, but Happy Birthday. I'm sure your dad would want you to celebrate today? I remember the first Christmas and feeling so guilty as my grandad wasn't there but my nan took me to one side and told me my grandad would want me to celebrate.

patchwork_cat

I miss them all, still. I lost 3 of my grandparents and both of my parents within 5 years of each other between the ages of 24 and 29. I still miss them, but particularly my Mum and Grandpa.

patchwork_cat

angchris wrote: »

my dad died in may. it`s my birthday today, i can`t see myself wanting to celebrate much later on!

Set a place for him toast him and enjoy your birthday, without being trite, you know your Dad would want you to enjoy it.

huskypup

angchris wrote: »

my dad died in may. it`s my birthday today, i can`t see myself wanting to celebrate much later on!

:ABig hugs Angcris - Happy Birthday, I lost my mum on 01/04, ironically my husband lost his mum on the same date 01/04 some years ago though - it was my 40th's a few weeks ago, so I kno where you are coming from at not wanting to celebrate - take each day as it comes and do what's best for you, I had a very quiet day, just my HB and Step children, no cake, though I am going having for a girls lunch on Friday to celebrate my birthday - just didn't want to do it at the time. Big hugs xxxxx