Save the dates

sammy_wheeler

i sent mine 1st july 2010 for 23rd july 2011 wedding

Minimoo24

I am sending mine 14.09.11 so most arrive the next day on the 15.09.11 - one year to the date! x

aworbey

We're sending ours just over a year before as we're getting married on the first May bank holiday 2013 and so want to ensure people dont book a break away and then cant get out of it. This way, people know in advance and if they still want to book a holiday they can, but at least they are informed. As opposed to booking a holiday and then feeling bad because its at the same time. No-one is obliged to come obviously but if they have all the details they can make an informed decision.

Olokia

I'm getting married on a bank holiday - 7th May 2012.

I sent an email/facebook message to all the guests who would be flying in for the wedding. This is so that they can look for the best flights if they wish to come.

3 months notice for them would mean that most of them couldn't make the wedding as they would have to arrange holidays and flights. I made it clear in the email that we understand they would have to come a long way but if they can make it then great.

Family have been told over the phone so they can try their best to not book holidays in this time and the rest of the people will be told October/November time.

Formal invitations will then be sent January to leave enough time to invite local friends if the abroad people can't make it.

We have people coming from Macau, Japan, America, France and a few other places so early knowledge of the wedding was necessary for them.

minerva_windsong

I think when you should send them probably depends on when the wedding is - if it's around Christmas for instance then people may be going to Christmas parties or they might be going away if they have kids and the wedding's in school holidays, so as more of a heads up thing if you want to come to the wedding allowing you to plan around it. Obviously if you can't go for whatever reason then that's fine but a bit of notice is appreciated.

I probably wouldn't do it for a wedding outside of those time periods though - if it was me I'd probably ring the people I specifically wanted there and tell them when it was, and everyone else could just wait for the invites. But each to their own and all that.

ampafc

pleasedelete wrote: »

I detest save the dates. Just send the invitations 3 months or so in advance.

All your family/friends we know anyway if you tell them. People are either going to come or not- save the date is just pointless.

Tbh it's very chavvy to me

Sorry but it is one of those and totally unnecessary things that has crept into society.

The worst are the fridge magnets with the bride and groom on. Awful awful tat.

And even worse those who send them to people only invited to the evening do- as if you are going ton save a date for a night out 12 months in advance.

Rant over! Know it won't be popular but they are a waste of time and money.

Well...some people have quite a large guest list. We are inviting approx 260 people, and we thought that we would send the save the dates out because that's quite a lot of people to tell in person when our wedding is! If you have less than 50 people coming - then I think there is no need. You can just tell them.

It's certainly not a 'chavvy' thing to do imo. Our save the date cards will look very classy

LEJC

Im reading this thread...and to be honest I can see it from both sides!...
When you send your save the dates to guests is really up to you and personal circumstance...they are a really good idea for people who live some distance and need to organise themselves etc...on the other hand I do tend to agree that sending save the date cards to evening only gueats a year in advance might be seen as a little organised!

I got married back in the day when save the dates were not used...we invited 60 to the wedding daytime by invite 12 weeks before and a further 220 to the evening their invites again being sent 12 weeks before...we ended up with 56 for the day and around 250 in the evening...mostly everyone knew well in advance what type of invite they would get...it was amazing how quickly word of mouth spread the news that finally I was marrying...so thankfully save the date wasnt needed...

As a guest im still waiting for my first save the date...although again I seem to be invited more by word of mouth first and followed up by the invite later....

do them if you have a need....but its also not a problem if you dont send them in my opinion...

Although I do have a bit of a question to pose without hijacking the thread and more out of curiosity...In sending save the dates...would you feel let down by the guest if they didnt tell you until the official invite came that they couldnt attend the wedding...or would you have expected them to tell you when they received the save the date?...whats the ettiquette on that?

Dekazer

Nothing like wedding planning to divide popular opinion

johannalf88

We sent our save the dates as soon as we had a date. We only sent them to those we felt HAD to be there, ie close friends and family, not to everyone we plan to invite. It was also just a fancy email, so didn't cost anything but a bit of time.
Regarding replies, I wouldn't expect anyone to RSVP to it. They will still get an invite as plans change, n I still want them to be there.

Angel_of_Tomfoolery

We're waiting for our save the date cards to be delivered. After a 4 year engagement I think I can be forgiven for getting a bit excited at finally letting everyone know we've set the date, even if it's in 2013! We are getting married 400 miles from where we live and on a Friday, so people will need plenty of notice to book time off if they want to come. If they don't want to come, that's up to them and there will be no ill feeling from us! When I mentioned save the date cards to OH though, he did say 'but I have free text messages':rotfl: