Save the dates

AutumnBride85

Hi everyone!

I know this has probably been discussed before but I havent got the time or patience to go through the threads!

When is the best time to send save the dates? How many months in advance? I dont want to send them too early in case we need to make changes to the guest list later on

Thanks! :cool2:

74jax

AutumnBride85 wrote: »

Hi everyone!

I know this has probably been discussed before but I havent got the time or patience to go through the threads!

When is the best time to send save the dates? How many months in advance? I dont want to send them too early in case we need to make changes to the guest list later on

Thanks! :cool2:

I would say as soon as your date is set and you know who you want there. Whether that be a year in advance or 6 months or whenever.

I would only send them to those you are intending to invite though; hence you are asking them to 'save the date', so I'd maybe finalise you guest list first.

Piggo_2

For the last wedding we went to we had a Save The Date Card as soon as they'd booked the church, it was about 14 months in advance!

Dekazer

We started telling people the date as soon as we had things booked, band then finally got our acts together to make some save the dates about 5 months in advance. We sent the last batch out about 3.5 months in advance.

We've just got our invitations in the post (free from Vistaprint and they look ace!) and will be giving/sending those out from this weekend, which is 3 months in advance. Our RSVP dat eis one month before the wedding.

HTH

pleasedelete

I detest save the dates. Just send the invitations 3 months or so in advance.

All your family/friends we know anyway if you tell them. People are either going to come or not- save the date is just pointless.

Tbh it's very chavvy to me

Sorry but it is one of those and totally unnecessary things that has crept into society.

The worst are the fridge magnets with the bride and groom on. Awful awful tat.

And even worse those who send them to people only invited to the evening do- as if you are going ton save a date for a night out 12 months in advance.

Rant over! Know it won't be popular but they are a waste of time and money.

White_Sapphire

Blimey, calm down pleasedelete! :eek:

I know not everyone likes save the dates, and that there are arguments for and against, but a little courtesy would not go amiss.

FYI, I'm not having save the dates, we're just telling people face-to-face and via phone, email & facebook. That said, if you want save the dates, have them and ignore the ranters. In terms of when, as soon as you have finalised the date, venue & guest list, although I would personally be concerned that anything sent over a year in advance is going to get forgotten about.

x

pleasedelete

I did say it wouldn't be a popular opinion!

We get invited to loads of weddings. I hate getting a save the date say for august 16th 18 months in advance. August is the only time we can go on holiday. We go for 3 weeks. A date of the 16th makes that impossible.

When I get the save the date we haven't booked. If i then book do I seem mean et etc.

I think it's an unneccessary cost and a burden for guests.

If it is immediate family I will know anyway and would adjust my holiday but I am afraid for anyone else it makes no difference receiving a save the date card- except it makes me think the couple are a bit selfish.

Facebbok sounds good. Less personal- take it or leave it. No guilt.

PrincessDonna2009

We sent out our 'save the date' cards out 5 months prior to or wedding date and our invitations out 3 months....

White_Sapphire

Wasn't your opinion that was the problem, it was the judgmental way in which you phrased it. For the most part, people send save the dates to give their guests the most notice they can, as people's diaries get booked up a lot further in advance than they used to and three months' notice is not always enough. If people still want to book a holiday for that time then that is their prerogative, but for people who are able to be a bit more flexible with their holidays and can work them around other things like weddings then there is a benefit. It's not a selfish "you must come to our wedding regardless of any other commitments", but more giving people the best opportunity to be there if they want to be.

Like you, however, I would rather just tell people the date when I see them, and make sure it filters through the family grapevine. But to effectively call people who send them selfish chavs with no taste is harsh in the extreme!

poddle911

I totally agree, White Sapphire. We're just about to send save the dates for our May wedding, so people have it in mind when making other plans. It's just a heads up - obviously we hope that people we're inviting would like to come, but I won't take offence if they can't or don't.

I really can't understand how that could be perceived as selfish?!

We'll probably send out invitations 3 months before too.

malkie76

We did them at Christmas for a May wedding, and popped them into christmas cards we were sending anyway. We had a signficant number of people who were travelling (from the US and Australia), and from across the UK. We felt it polite to offer an informal 'save the date' to give them time to decide if they were willing to travel or not before deciding the final guest list.