My 2 D/S Christmas presents ??

minimacka

I have 2 boys one has just turned 18 and the other one will be 15 on Christmas eve. (I know bless him) I usually spend quite a lot of money on both of them at Christmas time (I know its a money saving forum but I never get into debt to do this). Anyway my question is do I spend the same amount of money on my 18 year old as my 15 year old. The sensible part of me thinks that now he is a adult and a very sensible hard working one at that, that I should reduce the amount that will spend on him, but the mother that always trys to treat her 2 boys the same feels a bit awfull not treating them the same. So what do others on here do? or what are other peoples thoughts?

Scorpio_girlie

My thought is that you should still treat them the same! I feel that if you have raised a very sensible hard working 18 year old, then why not reward him for turning out so well!! I think I would be more inclined to give him less if he were a good for nothing layabout, who didn't help himself in life.

Hope this helps.

Scorpio girlie
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minimacka

Thank you for your reply I was beginning to think that no one would have an opinion. Its very difficult isnt it, he has his own money and can buy whatever he wants/needs aswell whereas when we were buying things he waited for the "big" things until Christmas.

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Scorpio_girlie

Maybe you could give him some smaller stocking fillers and some money to spend in the January sales?

minimacka

That is a good idea i will bear that in mind come Christmas time:)

elysia2003

I have a 20 yr old (at Uni and doesn't work) and an 8 yr old - I spend exactly the same on both of them. They are still your kids so you spend what you like.

Saying that - my niece and nephew are 21 and 20 and both earn more than me, (sahm) so I've cut them out this year. I feel guilty but needs must.

kayandy_2

my mum has me im 20 my sister who will be 19 and m 2 yera old brother and all 3 of us get the same spent on us every year and at bdays we all get same amount too hope this helps

minimacka

I really thought that people would shoot me down for wanting to spend the same on my 18 year old as my 15 year old but it makes me feel better to think that people spend the same on there kids.
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julie03

i would always spend the same on all my boys (none are 18 yet) i think i will change it when they have their own children, my mum does this, she spends more on my brother and sister as they dont have children, and less on me and my other sister as she buys for our children as well.

carlamarie_2

spend the same i say! on my mums side there is 5 of us (me, my bro and sister and then step bro and sister) we are aged between 26 and 34 and all get the same spent on us (£75) me, my bro and my sister have 7 kids between us and they each get £40 spent on them.
mystepbro and sis have no problem with getting the same amount as us, even tho they dont have kids.

on my dads side there are 4 of us, my bro and sis mentioned and my younger brother who is 11. he gets £150 and we get nowt! our kids get £10 each! `

macma

When my girls were younger we used to treat them the same,it was easy as they were only a couple of years apart.Now one is settlled with a partner and 2 children the other -isn't .
They are different so we spend differently.The same with the grandchildren.Grandson is almost 16 and earns a little his sister is only 10.But last Christmas we bought him a bike :eek:loads of money and didn't spend half as much on her.For us it's about getting them what they really want not actually tallying up the cost ,I'm certain my grandaughter will get her "bike" or something equally as pricey at some point.They are both happy with what they get and that's the main thing for us. minimacka do what feels right,you know your boys and as folk have shown in this thread there are lot's of "rights"