divorce help please

BLUEBIE

Following on from my earlier post regarding the costs of getting divorce, can anyone give me some advice on how to actually go about it. I know I need to make a solicitors appt but what I mean is:

We have chldren and debt, how I plan on selling the house and paying of the debt leaving us with about £40,000 left over.

Now I have no idea how much of this will be taken up with solicitors fees etc. My H says he only wants about £5000 + one of the cars etc, so this might sound dim, but would it work out cheaper for him to sign the house over to me and I give him £5000, then I sell the house and pay everything off or just explain to the solicitors and let them sort it all out.

Its very messy right now, and just want to try to make everything as smooth as possible.

Any advice anyone can give would be great.

There wouldn't be any issues over contact etc.

Thanks

princessdreamer

Sounds much easier to have the house signed over and just pay the £5,000. The house could take a while to sell so you need to sort out the mortgage, can you pay it, will the ex pay it and wait for their money. You need good legal advice.

kremmen

Hi,
Sorry for your situation.
I divorced about 8 years ago and have friends who are going through the process and I just want to say that it is important to get the solicitors paperwork done properly. My Ex wife had a "cheap" solicitor who kept getting paperwork wrong and this slowed the divorce process down incredibly and also nearly resulted in my bankruptcy.
On the radio here ( berkshire) there are adverts for "divorce negotiators" who will work for both people "to keep costs down".

I can't help with your individual details but if he is signing the house over to you and you are giving him £5K I would make it a condition that you give him the money when the house is sold ( assuming you don't have the money lying around).

Don't rush to make everything smooth if this means that you and the kids are exposed to some financial or housing risk.Even though there seem to be no issues over contact it might become a problem if things go wrong. I have seen divorces where the kids become bagaining chips...don't let this happen if you can.

Paul

RAS

It would be much better to keep this as one thread, because there is info here that affects the advice you would recieve on the other thread.

Why do you want to sell the house?

How much of this debt is joint and how much belongs solely to each spouse?

scheming_gypsy

BLUEBIE wrote: »

Its very messy right now, and just want to try to make everything as smooth as possible.

Any advice anyone can give would be great.

any advice? if it's messy now don't involve solicitors unless you want it to get messier.
Put any differences to one side and sit down to discuss it. If he only wants 5k and a car, why are you involving solicitors? people only involve them when there's a battle over who's having what.