Post-wedding blues??

Bride2be24

angelil wrote: »

I can't say I have While I would LOVE to do it all again because it was quite simply the best day ever (even though there were a few tiny bits that didn't quite go right ) my feelings are more of the "OMG we've been married 4 months " variety than "OMG it's already been 4 months " (speaking of which, does that mean we got married at the same time?! Mine was April 29).

As others have said - it's ultimately the marriage that's important, not the wedding

We got married 23rd April so just a little over 4 months

sammy_wheeler

as ellay said- i cried for 2 days after the wedding!
its been really hard tbh!- and i have mentioned many times to my husband that i want to do it all over again! i got back yesterday from cyprus- i went to my best friends wedding there.
we have my husbands sisters wedding on october 21st- but we are only guests then.
for me its all about having more things to plan-- next for us is buying a house- i have already made appointments to go and speak to banks about mortgages- so that will hopefully keep me busy--
but to be honest its never going to be the same.
i miss that i cant wear my dress again and feel that special

wanchai_2

Mama_Cat wrote: »

I'm really lucky in that I didn't suffer post-wedding blues. I had the most perfect day, but there really wasn't enough time to feel down once the actual day was over!

We married on Friday, had lunch on Saturday with Hubby's old school friend, then dinner with immediate family in the evening. Sunday was spent packing and travelling off on honeymoon for two weeks. During this we unwrapped pressies, read our cards, drank champagne and basically carried on celebrating!

Even after we came home, it felt like the celebrations were continuing - we looked through our wedding photos, wrote thank you cards and spent time visiting friends as the new 'Mr & Mrs'.

All this has really helped settle us into our new married life, without coming down to earth with a bump. We've had time to adjust and realise the elation in the run up to the wedding is over, but an even more exciting future married life is ahead of us.

What a lovely post. Thank you! :A I too am fearing the PW blues and I'm only just engaged lol!

codemonkey

Another one suffering here. We've been back from honeymoon for 3 days and after the initial unpacking, and seeing everyone and opening the presents, now we're left with just...normal life and without the wedding, I'm not sure what to do now.

H2B has just gone back into his usual routine of computer addiction, which from the just the two of us on lovey-dovey honeymoon thing, is a horrible feeling (obviously I knew it was going to happen and I can't expect to be newlyweds endlessly and it's not going to be like the wedding forever).

Grrr. I need a project but the baby thing isn't going to happen and we can't afford to decorate the house right away.

Someone give me an idea of cheap ways to distract myself from being all sad that I can't wear my pretty dress and veil and feel special again.

shellsuit

codemonkey wrote: »

Another one suffering here. We've been back from honeymoon for 3 days and after the initial unpacking, and seeing everyone and opening the presents, now we're left with just...normal life and without the wedding, I'm not sure what to do now.

H2B has just gone back into his usual routine of computer addiction, which from the just the two of us on lovey-dovey honeymoon thing, is a horrible feeling (obviously I knew it was going to happen and I can't expect to be newlyweds endlessly and it's not going to be like the wedding forever).

Grrr. I need a project but the baby thing isn't going to happen and we can't afford to decorate the house right away.

Someone give me an idea of cheap ways to distract myself from being all sad that I can't wear my pretty dress and veil and feel special again.

You could always plan to do something special for your 1st anniversary?

My husband asked me where I'd like to go for a meal for ours. I told him I wanted to go back to the mexican restaurant we went to in Lanzarote on our honeymoon, joking of course.

He only went and booked for us to fly out for 3 nights so we can actually go and eat there :j

We go next Saturday, but this past year since the wedding has absolutely flown by!


If that's too premature for you, what about looking into booking a holiday next summer for you both? x

codemonkey

Already planned. We're going to Venice for my friend's wedding next year which is at least something to look forward to, but is really far away.

Just need something to lift the blah. Feel like its ruining my time before I go back to [STRIKE]hell[/STRIKE] work, but I can't shake it. Does that make sense or am I just being a brat?

MaggieBaking

Sort through your pictures,
write thank you cards,
go into your florists with pictures from the day for their records,
same with the venue.
Put together a small photo album for your bridesmaids.
Get all your financial paperwork sorted by telling your bank etc you're a Mrs.
Spend an evening out with friends to say thanks for their support on the day and re-live the wedding a little bit.
Spring clean the house so it's sparkly new for your new lives as husband and wife.
Arrange a small treat for your husband before work starts, like a special evening together.
Maybe you can't redecorate but you can get new bedding for your marital bed
Make a "this year" to do list, eg, learn how to make the perfect sponge cake, climb the local hill, sing kareoke, learn to drive. If you have any time try to complete one on the list.

sammy_wheeler

hi code-
i just wanted to say it gets better! its 9 weeks ago on sat since my wedding
we are currently buying a house
last week we got the wedding dvd back- and we watched that on saturday
we still havent had our offical photos back so that will be good
my wedding dress is still hanging up by the curtain rail in the spare room i havent had it cleaned yet- will do eventually and have it boxed up- not ready yet!
i still really do miss the wedding planning- and i cant imagine stopping coming on here! but the emotional wreckage that i was has gone

can you start the decorating ideas?- maybe a scrapbook of the colours you want and furtuniture (sp) you want?

White_Sapphire

Code, could you look into starting a course or new hobby to keep you busy?

I love the scrapbook of decorating ideas Sammy suggested!

Sorry I can't be any more help than that - I know I'm going to be so busy in the run up to my wedding that I'll be at a complete loose end afterwards so will definitely need some kind of a project to get my teeth into!!

Idiophreak

I was fine post-wedding, although the wifey was a little emotional. Post-honeymoon was a different matter. Bummed hard.