How do you get through the loss of a beloved pet?

vicx

jokeyjo wrote: »

aww Vicx i really wish i had some pieces of advice but i dont sorry , today im going through a really bad time i had to have my 17 year old dog pts he has been doddery for a while but today he couldnt get up at all and then turned his nose up at his roast dinner so i did what was best for my harvey so all im doing tonight is sending you big hugs x

So sorry you are going through the same thing. I wish I could say it gets easier but it doesn't, we just learn to live with the pain and I can honestly say those bad days will soon become few and far between.

My yorkie that I lost in May had to be PTS and it was the hardest and most upsetting thing I have ever had to do. I was with him when he got the injection and I was hysterical but there was no way I could have let him be on his own. I even carried his body back to the car wrapped in his blanket and put him on the back seat as we buried him in our garden (I was in no fit state to drive so my dad took me with my mam).

My King Charles that I lost in August died naturally at home (same way my first Yorkie died 5 years ago) although I was hysterical, the pain was no where near as bad as what it was when my Yorkie was 'put to sleep'. I think it's so much easier to accept the pets passing when they have died naturally as there is no guilt or thoughts of thinking 'was it the right thing' 'was it too soon'. I know my Yorkie could not have lived another day as he was in so much discomfort as his windpipe collapsed but even though it was the best and kindest thing to do I still felt guilty. His last day always replays in my mind, it was awful the way he suffered. Sat here in tears again now

meritaten

Its a few years now since I had pets - I do miss them though.
Time they say is a great healer - its not so much time but coming to terms with the fact that animals just do not live long enough!
my last pet Nicky I think taught me the most about grieving - I knew from the time I had him he was going to die.......He had FIV and I adored that cat! so did everyone who came in contact with him! I had him for three years - the vet said he wouldnt last two weeks! every month the vet would shake his head and say he wouldnt last a fortnight!
but Nicki enjoyed his time with us - yet I am sure he was happy to go. there comes a time when animals are prepared to go on ahead of us - I am sure they know that we will all meet up again.
they also know when they are loved - and that love never dies.

ameliarate

I lost my girl 6 months and 8 days ago. I can't begin to tell you how much I miss her. I think of her every single day. When it snowed all I could think about was how she would have loved being out there in it.

However, what I do know is my Scout had a good life and she was loved. I think of all the dogs that are not loved and cared for and that breaks my heart even more. I can never get back the relationship I had with her, never, not with any other dog because she was an individual, but maybe one day I can find a dog who needs to be loved.

Fosterdog thank you so much for that poem