saying thank you for gifts.

morganb

Good manners cost nothing!![/COLOR][/QUOTE]

Too true! My son got a really lovely thank you letter from his teacher after Christmas; it was a proper, long note and it must have taken her ages to write to all the children who gave her a present but it was very much appreciated.

I'm a teacher and I always write thank you letters for gifts, the kids love getting their letters addressed to 'Miss' or 'Master' in the post!

jamtart6

thriftlady wrote:

The rule in our house, is that you must say thank you (of course !) but letters are for people you can't thank in person

Snap! I think as kids its nice to do it, but as I've got older (and still writing my thank u cards aged 23) if I see/speak someone within 3 or 4 days of xmas, then i obviously thank them, if not they get a thank you card.

I think thats reasonable...but lovely from kids, and really teaches them good manners

bluejosiah

I gave a family I know (and give gifts to) thank you notelets one year in the hope that it would encourage them to write thank you letters. I've never received one, or had a thank you letter back. I think it is so important but what can you do? You can only lead by example I guess.

HopeElizzy

I've been helping my 4yo make and sign christmas thank-yous today. She can write her own name and her brothers (he's 2yo) and asked me how to write thank you. So, we made cards using the jokes out of the christmas crackers on the front, then I wrote who it was to and she wrote Thank you love Hope + Thomas xx inside.

I think it's important and wrote thank yous on their behalf when they were babies and as they get older they do a little more each year towards making and sending them themselves.

Gettin_me_own_back

D/S now 12 & 13 always send thank you notes for christmas and birthdays, they always enclose photos and details of what they have done with money etc.
I have 2 nieces now 21 and 24 have never had a thank you note, tele call or a verbal thank you. Even for 21st and 18th very expensive presents. This year their mum could not even be bothered to get out of the car and hand us our christmas cards (she sent daughters boyfriend, whilst she sat in the car) so last week I took all their presents back to the shops. With an example like that I suppose I should not expect a thank you.
Godson was 18 last year so sent him some cash, he is painfully shy and rang up to say thank you, he had always written before so the fact that he rang us meant so much. Older relatives really appriciate a note and it also lets people know that the present has arrived safetly.

sophiesmum_2

i have always put a pack of thank you cards in my kids stockings so they can do them straight after xmas. I started the habit when they were littlies and even though the youngest is now 15 she still gets and expects thank you cards in her stocking.
sophiesmum

victory

There is no way my two kids would be allowed to keep anything they had been bought if they did not have the decency to write a thank you letter!!
Before the day is over on xmas day, they have been writen, put in the envelope, addressed and ready to go... xxxx

arnie&caseysma!

My Mum always made my little sis do thank you notes with her and they are always sent through the post to us all. She has now taken it upon herself to continue these now she is old enough to do so. This year when I got mine I phoned my mum and told her that from now on please stop wasting the ink from the printer and the cost of the stamp to send them to me (in true MSE style - mum is a miser!), but I would much rather the phonecall (free from her line!) on Xmas day/birthday to thank me (instead of me always phoning them). A phonecall would mean a lot more to me than a letter does.

On other other hand, this year I spent months gathering up gifts and loads of stuff for DSD (bought and paid for by ME and not OH - he asked me 4 days before Xmas what we had got her). She arrived with us on Boxing Day and opened all her gifts. She also got the gifts from all other members of my family who didnt have to get her anything. Anyway, in the 8 days she was here I have not heard a verbal please or thank you to anyone including me. And OH wonders why I completely blew my stack one night when at 13 years old she has absolutely no manners and can't say please or thank you to anyone. This year we didn't even get a card from her.

Guess who I'm not buying for next year and OH will get a shock 3 days before the big day when he finds out I havent bought for......

Lillibet_2

I always always write thank you notes, the only people I don't give them to are my hubby & my parents (who hand over their gifts saying "no need to send us a thank you!"). Nowdays I make photo cards on the PC which makes them a bit more personal. I must admit they aren't very long but I always try & get the gift in & mention using it or similar & hope you had a great Christmas too kind of thing. Mine were all sent on the 1st January, I honestly have sleepless nights until they are done.
I don't think my hubby has ever written a thank you note in his life, no idea why as his sisters & mum always do! It bugs me a bit, esepecially for older relatives who he doesn't see very often, I think it's down right rude. I tellhim that if I was one of the un-thanked ones I wouldn't bother with him again but I just don't think he gets it!:mad: Nowdays of course I thank people on his behlaf so he has a get out of jail free card:rolleyes:

Rachie_B

tinkerbell1978 wrote:

am i sad? i write a thank you note from myself and OH and include a note from my son (2) i even go to lengths to make it look like he has written it and i like to include a painting which my son does do himself with it. is that a sad thing to do? not sure if they are appreciated but at least we have said thanks!

he is 2 so i think they will know its not written by him :rotfl:

My sons sent thank you notes to everyone who gave them gifts
one year we sent thank you magnets instead with a photo of them on ,in black and white,they were lovely and very well recieved

my sister had some "photo cards" made up by snapfish with a pic of her 2 children on and a thank you emssage