Depression

Miroslav

Not much point. Right now, i'm not sure I want to be here. It's just too hard.

feelinggood_2

Miroslav wrote:

Not much point. Right now, i'm not sure I want to be here. It's just too hard.

I know its hard Miro, but remember, there ARE good times, and there will be more good times. Things will work out.
I'm here if you need me, thinking of you
xx

EthelBloggs

Miroslav wrote:

'S' has posted a note through my door saying she never wants to see me again.

It's over.

3 days ago she wanted to be with me, now she never wants to see me.

Im soo sorry miro.... huge hugggggggggggs

Maybe it's just too much for her to cope with right now.. nothing to do with you personally.. know what i mean?

Here if you want to talk anytime xx

learning_to_drive

S' has posted a note through my door saying she never wants to see me again.

It's over.

3 days ago she wanted to be with me, now she never wants to see me.

That's bad brother, please PM me if you want to talk, but dont let this get you down, she is 1 girl in how many? 100's of millions?

She doesnt deserve you, again, easy for me to say, but believe it, act like you did with every girl you ever meet, several will love how you are, then, you can have your pick!

But dont let her get the better of you, not all girls are the same

Mrs_A.

hi folks not been around these parts for ages
so i better post an update (huge cry for help if im honest)
ok
done the cbt whole course and i feel it did nothing for me,

day hospital want me to go to group therapy now which i will try probably tomorrow or sometime this week,

consultant wants to change my meds again and told me to wean myself of the 60mg of paroxitine i was on daily which i was doing until..... and here comes to bad bit...........

my gp called me in to discuss the consultants referral letter back to her after i met him in december.............

says "mrs a is suffering from unipolar depression, feels she has no good thoughts or feelings or cant remember a time when she felt good about anything or looked forward to anything, mrs a manages to cook a meal for her family on average once a fornight, mrs a feels afraid to meet new people or go to new places unaccompained by her husband etc etc etc, i am recommending that mrs a be prescribed venlafaxine again up to the maximum dose as soon as possible and if this has no effect on mrs a then i would suggest prescribing combination drug therapy for mrs a, namely max dose of venlafaxine and LITHIUM.........."


oh my goodness i am so shocked by that i mean lithium thats heavy duty stuff.
i had planned to return to work (after having been off the past 3 months or so with depression) but my gp says no way and if i have to go on the lithium i might not get back at all.........

however, i am now slowly getting over the shock of that and i have now accepted my depression for how bad it really is and i have also taken off the happy go lucky mask that i have been wearing for years.

so guys any ideas.
i am expecting to be put of half pay come the 25th of this months if i am luck this will last for the next 3 months.

my gp is not that hopeful that the venlaflax will work as i have been on it before so it looks like i am going to have to give the lithium a go.

yours
mrs a

learning_to_drive

give it a go, anti depressants have a huge stigma for everyone, we are all worried about them, it will get you better!

Take the course, if it gets you better you will be happy

Tiff_2

Hi mrs a! :wave:
Coincidence or what but I posted you a hello today - not forgotten you angel. I'm so sorry you're having such a hard time.
Ok hun, let's take this one step at a time.

Mrs_A. wrote:

hi folks not been around these parts for ages
so i better post an update (huge cry for help if im honest)
ok done the cbt whole course and i feel it did nothing for me,
day hospital want me to go to group therapy now which i will try probably tomorrow or sometime this week,

Well done for posting angel instead of suffering - glad you could open up to us all. Did you have an intensive CBT course hun? Did you get regular feedback or input? This is very important to how CBT (Cognitive Behavioural Therapy) works. I can't really comment on whether it should be working for you mrs.a, but what you need to do now is focus on the remaining options.
I'm glad you're going to explore all the dr's suggested options hun - you'll never know unless you give it a go. And don't forget, it may feel strange at first but the people you'll meet will make you welcome.

consultant wants to change my meds again and told me to wean myself of the 60mg of paroxitine i was on daily which i was doing until..... and here comes to bad bit...........
my gp called me in to discuss the consultants referral letter back to her after i met him in december.............
They are communicating well with each other and you hun - that's really good.

says "mrs a is suffering from unipolar depression, feels she has no good thoughts or feelings or cant remember a time when she felt good about anything or looked forward to anything, mrs a manages to cook a meal for her family on average once a fornight, mrs a feels afraid to meet new people or go to new places unaccompained by her husband etc etc etc, i am recommending that mrs a be prescribed venlafaxine again up to the maximum dose as soon as possible and if this has no effect on mrs a then i would suggest prescribing combination drug therapy for mrs a, namely max dose of venlafaxine and LITHIUM.........."
Hun, I can imagine how scared you must be but we're here for you any time.
We're not at the lithium stage quite yet though hun are we? What did the gp say? There is the chance that the new ad and the combination of therapy may work.

oh my goodness i am so shocked by that i mean lithium thats heavy duty stuff.
i had planned to return to work (after having been off the past 3 months or so with depression) but my gp says no way and if i have to go on the lithium i might not get back at all.........however, i am now slowly getting over the shock of that and i have now accepted my depression for how bad it really is and i have also taken off the happy go lucky mask that i have been wearing for years.
I am so proud of you hun. Your courage has gotten you this far and you are a true survivor. I'm not trying to diminsh how you must feel angel but the word ''might'' can hold hope. Even if you are on lithium, I'm sure there are different levels and maybe some people do work while on it. I don't know about lithium very much tbh mrs.a. - but I know it's a heavy duty medication.

Sweetheart, even if you do start taking lithium, please remember that you are so much more than a job description. It seems that the straight talk with your gp has in a way, set you free - no more pretending that it's all ok and you will be amazed at how much help is available to people with mental ill health of any kind. It's good that the drs know what they're doing and that they are leaving the lithium as a latter option. Proud of you for keeping an open mind and being willing to try it out hun. :T I hope that reassures you angel that they do have your best interests at heart and are trying all they can.
I know it must be a heck of a shock but you've got a lot of support. We can also look at the other side of the page now hun. You end up taking lithium. If that helps you lead a better life, then it'll be worth it angel. No, it's not what you want mrs.a, but it's available because it does something and works for people. Hold on to this crumb of comfort.

so guys any ideas.
i am expecting to be put of half pay come the 25th of this months if i am luck this will last for the next 3 months.
my gp is not that hopeful that the venlaflax will work as i have been on it before so it looks like i am going to have to give the lithium a go.
Now this is a bit more in Tiff territory sweetheart.;)
You need to contact DLA unit and request a form to apply for Disability Living Allowance.
I will look out the phone number for you to call and post it tomorrow morning on here.
This should be the first thing you do tomorrow hun as they only backdate a claim from the time you request the form. Also phone your local MIND, DIAL or CAB, and book an appointment to get the form filled in - don't wait for the form to arrive as the appointments can be a few weeks away. The form is about 15 foot long & repetitive but don't be put off. PLEASE let the experts fill in the form with you - wording is crucial -and then get it back to DLA via registered post. I know you'll have to pay for this but it ensures that it doesn't get magically 'lost'!
It'll be a few weeks before you hear anything - contact your gp and psychiatrist who will be contacted for info from DLA so that they'll have it ready to go. I cannot imagine why you wouldn't qualify for a medium-high rate hun. Hopefully, this will reassure you about finances angel though it takes a while to come through. It is not income related, and it doesn't matter if you are working, on benefits, single, married or if it's solely a mental health illness - it's purely based on the help you need and your health.
MIND's website is a gold mine of free information guys.:T
yours
mrs a

I have to go now guys but mrs.a, please keep us posted hun.

Miro hun - you're a wonderful person and your happy ever after will come. I know you're feeling tortured now but you're a survivor and you can get through this. Letting the pain out is part of the healing process angel - and just you remember the other 8 women declaring an interest in you recently! Scant consolation I know hun and I'm sure nothing I can say can soothe your pain right now - but I'm here if you need hugs and a friend.

Really sorry I can't stay longer guys - got to call hospital about Mum. Thinking of all of you and will hopefully catch you tomorrow. Take care of each other.
Much Love,
Tiff xxx

kronas

Miroslav wrote:

Never

'S' didn't contact me - not looking good.

I know it's only 30 hours since.......and she acts like a child who doesn't want to hear the truth sometimes..........but still, my feelings are my feelings

its as i suspected, time to move on, the grass will get greener on the other side, you just have to open up more opportunities for yourself, im sure many of us in the thread would want to be loved (or love someone) as the latter is the case with me, but for you i suggest you just continue your freindship if its left, else you just make yourself worse when it comes to thinking, which inturn makes your symptoms worse.

edit: just saw your other post, its a shame that it had to end that way, but heed my advice and move on, stand up, be proud, head held up high, it wasent meant to be, its not your fault, complications are to blame, im sure next time you will be luckier!

elona

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Tiff_2

Good morning ethel!:hello:
Saw your light on hun - how are you?
Just wanted to say Good Luck for the doctor's appt. today angel. Let us know how you get on.
Don't forget to contact MIND with an update of the reactions you had Friday hun.
I'm thinking of you sweetheart.
Much Love,
Tiff xxx