Depression

Tiff_2

Hi guys!:hello:
A very warm to all our new friends and to the rest of the family!:A
I hope everyone is safe and sound and enjoying the traditional Bank Holiday rain.:rolleyes:
I just wanted to mention a few people here just in case I can't finish the Tiff Chronicles, as I'm still playing catch up. Been another busy Tiff week so pease don't think I don't care - had a couple of moments myself.:rolleyes:

ethel - oh sweetie - I hope you're feeling better hun? Did b/f stay around to help this weekend after all angel? I know you must be really poorly not to be posting. Hoping all is well with DD and DS hun. Feel better soon sweetheart. Miss you.

sazzy - missing you too hun - hope all is well and that you're enjoying your extra day off from the salt mines!;) It sounds like you're a super fit sazzy with all this running!Thinking of you angel.

ltd - you're too quiet hun - is everything ok? I hope it's just a case of you being too busy with a new job to post hun.

rose - I hope the appointment went well with your surgeon angel and that he was able to help you with the pain. Hope you told him how you feel. Get some rest. Take care hun.

rbk - you hang in there hun! You're needed in too many places and I don't want you or anybody else here, to become an anniversary!:o Thinking of you.

beer - how are you angel? I guess you've been lurking a little. I hope all is well with you and yours beer - let us know how you are when you can.

stenny - what's the stennmeister up to? I hope everything's all well with you hun? I know you're a busy bunny but I just wanted to say hello. Take care angel.

mac - how are you angel? Just wanted to wish you a belated ! Much good luck, good health and happiness in the coming year hun.

qb - I'm sorry you're feeling so up and down atm hun. I hope you're looking after yourself properly. Try and relax as much as you can hun ok? Take care.

elona - bless you running around! I bet you've hardly had time to log on before you've had to run out again!:rolleyes: It's good to hear from you angel! Hope you're well.

cif - you're another who's a bit quiet right now. I hope everything is all right hun. Post if you get chance angel. Take care.

blinky - hope you're having a nice break with r? How's you angel? Great news about the probability of you and r moving in together hun!:T
Saz, quick - check the hat fund - I think he's trying to pull a fast one!

ltf - another recruit missing in action!:rolleyes: How are you hun? What's been going on with you? Thinking of you.

Huge Tiff hugs to the rest of the family.
Have to go for now guys - when you start looking like this, you know it's time to take a break!:D



Hopefully catch up more later.
I'm thinking of you all.;)
Look after yourselves guys.
Much Love,
Tiff xxx

Sugar_Coated_Owl

Morning all!

How is everyone this morning? (((HUGS)))

Pumpkin_Pie_5

Tiff wrote: »

HI PUMPKIN!:hello:
Just want to wish you and your fiance...

GOOD LUCK
FOR YOUR WEDDING DAY!

I can see it all now...

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Congratulations to you both!

I hope you have a day to remember and that you'll both live your 'happy ever after' together.:A Wishing you both the best of everything.:T
I'll be thinking of you hun! sniff, sniff.
(Oh - and one for the groom too.)
Much Love,
Tiff xxx

Thank you so much hun - It was a wonderful wonderful day!

Much love
Pumpkin xxx

Sugar_Coated_Owl

OMG Did I miss a wedding? :eek:

When was it?

Tulip

Morning RBK and everyone,

Hope you are all ok,I am fine,Just woke up an hour ago 11am :eek: so lazy I am.I had to look at teletext at 4.35am and then I saw a bit of Jeremy Kyle muted.I am off to my parents again today for dinner.Glad to see the thread is buzzing again

I will be back on later

lots of love to all,

Katie

Tulip

Pumpkin_Pie wrote: »

Thank you so much hun - It was a wonderful wonderful day!

Much love
Pumpkin xxx

Congratulations Pumpkin to you and your new hubby


Katie

Tulip

Well I have to go now,

chat later all

to all


Katie

Tiff_2

Hi idt!:hello:
How are you hun?
quote=indeeptrouble
Thanks for the welcome.
No I received no warnings at all. That is why my union have just said 'go and enjoy the sunny weather - you'll be back in no time'. I guess that is easier said than done when you have that lying over you.
I know how worried you must be and I'm not dismissing it in any way angel. It certainly is easier said than done.
I hope that between the absence of either verbal or written warnings and your ten year tenure, that this will all go in your favour hun. Keep in touch with your union rep and maybe a visit, as I said, to CAB. You've done all you can for right now hun, so rest your mind a little and lay the weight down. It's okay to let it go for a little while sweetheart ~ torturing yourself won't do anything but hurt you.

As for the GP. You know after 4 years I wonder whether he thinks I'm trying to 'pull a fast one' and get more time off work. It is embarrasing to say the least. At the same time if he could just see what I'm like on bad days he would know I was serious. Some days I just cry and cry into my pillow. This is out of sight of my wife and lovely kids (although my wife understands and does help). For gods sake what is wrong with me. I have a lovely family, nice house, a bit of cash, car?? Sometimes I see some poor s*ds on tv. starving and I tell myself to snap out of it but I can't.
Regards
Indeeptrouble[/quote]
Cry as much as you want idt. It is a biological way of getting rid of the stress chemicals. Completely natural hun and actually good for you.;)

You are feeling what 99% of us feel about our mental ill health at first idt - embarrassed, even ashamed. You are ill and there's no shame in that hun.
Your mind is very powerful and it's always a good idea to start to stop the negatives getting through by correcting them with positives. Tell yourself 'I have nothing to be embarrassed about - I am genuinely ill.' Say it often, every day. I know it sounds ridiculous angel but it's a start. It can't hurt. Hopefully this will also lighten your burden hun.;)

Try and lay down all the things you can't change right now until the time comes when you can. It's a real hamster wheel hun - you get low and before you know it, nothing in your life is right. That's the ill health talking - there's no point in worrying about things you can't tackle right now. Your time needs to be spent on looking after yourself and getting some support so put down as much dead weight as you can.;)

Write down how you are on your bad days angel, and show it to the dr. As others have said, try and see another gp in the practice. Sometimes hun, you have to keep shouting until you're heard. It's not the way it should be and often, imho, this is what makes people worse as they have to fight or wait for the help they need when they're at their lowest.

Is this what the dr says to you angel or how you think he feels about you being off sick? I would have thought that after 4 years hun, that they would see there is a problem. If any medical professional thinks you're pulling a fast one as you put it hun, you'd have been told it by now. You can't fool all the people all the time as they say - your cover would have been blown.;)

You have nothing to be ashamed of hun.
Despite whatever your problem is, you have managed to have a successful marriage and children you love and a home and a car and a job. You've kept trying and surviving!:T
But these things can't measure you as a person hun. We judge ourselves harshly.
It doesn't mean that you've failed in some way just because you are very low, even though you have all these things. Depression for example, will go with anybody - it's a bit of a tart like that!:rolleyes: One hasn't got much to do with the others angel.

There is nothing 'wrong' with you idt. 1 in 4 people will have some kind of experience with mental ill health hun.
Your pain is as valid as anyone else's pain. No-one has the right to tell you that it isn't. If you're hurting, then you're hurting!

Part of mental ill health is feeling what we should and shouldn't be, compared to other poor souls, imho. It's one of the last of the old taboos and another way for us to torture ourselves.
Turn it around the other way angel - what about all those who live in mansions and have everything they could possibly want - why do they deserve help? Why do they check themselves into clinics or have private treatment? Trust me angel, mental ill health doesn't discriminate!

Take some time hun, book that gp appointment and take it hour by hour if necessarily. The guys on here are giving you fantastic advice and you are not being judged. I hoped this helped even a little bit hun. Take care.
Much Love,
Tiff xxx

Tulip

Hi Everyone :Hello:,

Well I just had a lovely roast dinner,Out for a nice walk soon,then I have ironing to do :eek: oh the joy :rotfl:

Hope you are having a nice day

Katie

Sugar_Coated_Owl

I have been feeling so crap recently. I really need help but I was desperate this morning and called the crisis team-no-one answered then I called again and apparently they were out but could be paged. I just said 'oh don't worry, bye' I've sent a text message to the Samaritans but they don't seem to give any yes or no answer. I feel really sick.