Major Rant - but I NEEDED to let off steam to like-minded people :)

floss2

Let her wear the 5" heels and tower over everyone....and tell your photographer that he won't get paid if there isn't at least one photo where the top of her head is missing....

Seriously, you need to stand up for what you want and not what other people want. It is YOU & your OH's wedding, not your mums or your sisters. If you want a quiet life then back down, but you will not get what you want and probably won't enjoy the experience of planning the most special day of your lives.

becca0417

Awww Spoony. I have a bm like this. It's so hard isn't it? Your OH sounds great, definitely a voice of reason. It's so hard not to get caught up with other people in this planning lark!

Minimoo24

she is jelous ur getting what she wanted and she was weak and took the east way out - tell her not to come over your house and not to be bridesmaid as your making it all so much hard work and then stand your ground i bet they back down! xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

spoonymoose

Well my sister came today, she didn't talk much about the wedding, nor did she mention the shoes.

I was however dreading any conversation regarding the wedding, particularly payment of anything she had bought.

We went shopping together, it was civil, I avoided talking about wedding stuff or shoes or dresses, I spotted her looking at a dress (the right colour for the wedding and the same material as my other bridesmaids' dresses) I walked over and said "that's nice" and she replied with "yeah, shame it's a few sizes too small for me." - good start I think.

Whilst with my parents today, we went looking for a suit for my dad (he's awkward but I think I may of mentioned this before) and a day previous to this he said how he didn't like navy suits and I replied with "well you can always just be a guest and then you can wear what you want" - I was very proud of myself! Anyways, today he found a navy suit which he liked (it's one which is quite a long suit jacket and the guy in the shop was soooo helpful and is borrowing his size from another shop so he can try it on so hopefully it will fit him.)

My mum asked a question as to who would be paying the hire for the suit, and I informed her that dad would be paying for his own suit as the rest of the men are paying for their own suits.

I think I'm having a better few days and I am slowly but surely standing up for what I want, though watch this space... It might change!

All I know is I'm looking forward to seeing the OH again as I am missing him terribly.

Thanks for all your words of wisdom and sense No doubt I will need them again soon :beer:

PootleFlump_3

Jeez you're mother sounds like a joy(!) and if I were you I would be telling her to butt out. I dont think you are being a control freak in the slightest (and I would say if I did.) Your sister sounds like a spoiled brat. I would personally tell them that its your wedding and you are inviting who you want to invite and that whilst you want your sister to feel comfortable in what she is wearing it has to be a joint decision between you are her. If she doesnt like it I would tell her that she would be best placed to come as a guest instead. x

p.s Ive only read your initial post as gotta go but hope you get it all sorted out. x

spoonymoose

PootleFlump wrote: »

Jeez you're mother sounds like a joy(!) and if I were you I would be telling her to butt out. I dont think you are being a control freak in the slightest (and I would say if I did.) Your sister sounds like a spoiled brat. I would personally tell them that its your wedding and you are inviting who you want to invite and that whilst you want your sister to feel comfortable in what she is wearing it has to be a joint decision between you are her. If she doesnt like it I would tell her that she would be best placed to come as a guest instead. x

p.s Ive only read your initial post as gotta go but hope you get it all sorted out. x

Thanks All I know is that I can't wait until I get back to the OH... Less stressful. I told my dad that if he doesn't want to wear the navy suit, he can be a guest (which was in front of my mum) so hopefully something has hit home.

My sister, well, I think my words will get back to her when I've left, particularly if my mum has anything to do with it.

becca0417

Fingers crossed spoony! Well done for being so assertive x

crazyguy

Spoony,

Take a leaf from your sisters book, cancel your wedding here and dont invite all the miserable people, Go abroad and enjoy your day with people that aint gonna b i t c h !