OH owes ex partner

dantheman2010

Reesy1981 wrote: »

I have to agree. Why would you be asking as to whether she is legally obliged to make payments? You are obviously looking at trying to convince her not to ake payments, maybe because they are to her ex and you are jealous and hope that if she stops payments then they will no longer speak.
I think you must realise that because she has been making regular payments then she has shown they have a verbal agreement which if she stopped paying, would go in her exes favour if he took her to court.
I think you need to deal with your insecurities and let your partner do what she does. If you dont trust her then why get her pregnant? Maybe we should look forward to seeing you on Jeremy Kyle for a paternity test.
Heres how the transcript would go

You: JK, she has been intouch with her ex and i am sure the baby is his.

JK: The all important DNA results show that you... (long silence) ...ARE the father you insecure oaf.

Like other posters have said. Stop trying to create problems for your partner.

Who said anything about jealousy or insecurities? Amazing!

Not sure why I am creating problems, and who I am creating problems for.....it was a question. That's it. I didnt say I have suggested she doesnt pay it, I have merely asked a question....how awful of me.

Maybe I should have come on here said "I owe someone some money, and I am finding it very difficult to meet these repayments. It wasnt a formal contract and I am finding it difficult to repay other debts because of this. Am I somehow legally bound to pay this?" A total lie, but perhaps I may have got the relevant information I was looking for.

But no.....because I mention it was my partner and her ex everyone has to give an opinion on the situation rather than an ACTUAL answer to the ACTUAL question.

ILW

The answer is that you probably do not have a legal obligation to keep paying, but if you stop the payments you are a scumbag.

KingElvis

ILW wrote: »

The answer is that you probably do not have a legal obligation to keep paying, but if you stop the payments you are a scumbag.

I was thinking of the correct answer and you beat me to it :rotfl:

dantheman2010

ILW wrote: »

The answer is that you probably do not have a legal obligation to keep paying, but if you stop the payments you are a scumbag.

A proper answer.

Thank you.

Agreed it would make me/her/us scumbags if we stopped paying this and at this point in time there is no chance of that. It was only a question.

Reesy1981

dantheman2010 wrote: »

Who said anything about jealousy or insecurities? Amazing!

Not sure why I am creating problems, and who I am creating problems for.....it was a question. That's it. I didnt say I have suggested she doesnt pay it, I have merely asked a question.

dantheman2010 wrote: »

Maybe I should have come on here said "I owe someone some money, and I am finding it very difficult to meet these repayments. It wasnt a formal contract and I am finding it difficult to repay other debts because of this.

1) if so, then why ask the question?

2) the agreememnt is verbal and has been stuck to by your partner with regular payment over the last 2 years, then it is formal.

3) Why are you struggling to pay debts because of this?

Reesy1981

dantheman2010 wrote: »

Agreed it would make me/her/us scumbags if we stopped paying this and at this point in time there is no chance of that. It was only a question.

If you stopped paying, he could take you to the small claims court and issue her with a CCJ. That would help her alot wouldnt it? :rotfl:

dantheman2010

Reesy1981 wrote: »

1) if so, then why ask the question?

Curiosty - already explained.

2) the agreememnt is verbal and has been stuck to by your partner with regular payment over the last 2 years, then it is formal.

Thank you

3) Why are you struggling to pay debts because of this?

We arent, the example of what I said I "should have" written to get an answer would have been a lie, hence why I didnt ask the question in that particular manner.

Thank you for this particular response.

dantheman2010

Reesy1981 wrote: »

If you stopped paying, he could take you to the small claims court and issue her with a CCJ. That would help her alot wouldnt it? :rotfl:

Well then you have answered the original question, took a while but you got there.

KingElvis

Dan, people with genuine debt problems get the advice they need and are often pointed to the Debt Free Wannbe forum....people who come on and look like they are trying to skulk out of a debt (even one which is honour based) get a very rough ride.

dantheman2010

KingElvis wrote: »

Dan, people with genuine debt problems get the advice they need and are often pointed to the Debt Free Wannbe forum....people who come on and look like they are trying to skulk out of a debt (even one which is honour based) get a very rough ride.

I wasnt trying to "skulk" out of anything, it was a question, out of curiosty.

It has now been answered.

Thanks to everyone for your replies, each and every one of them.