Omg whos got a tent

AMIDAFT

ok he cheated on me once well as far as i know i trusted him afte coming out of a violent relationship, i love this man to bits, yep my fault for taking him back after finding he had joined sex sites etc and then find out he cheated more than once with his ex, so no i havent cheated never ever thought about it and i pay alot of bills n upkeep of house.

Darlyd

AMIDAFT wrote: »

ok he cheated on me once well as far as i know i trusted him afte coming out of a violent relationship, i love this man to bits, yep my fault for taking him back after finding he had joined sex sites etc and then find out he cheated more than once with his ex, so no i havent cheated never ever thought about it and i pay alot of bills n upkeep of house.

Just go down the council with the kids and a few suit cases, and refuse to leave until they re home you..

OR go back home to your family!

AMIDAFT

daryl i have no one that is why im on here asking for advice, the council offices are miles away i cannot get there thats why i do it by phone

FatVonD

Would your bloke do the decent thing and pay the deposit and first months rent on a joint tenancy somewhere and then 'leave' you once you were in and you could then claim housing benefit?

AMIDAFT

fat no he has no money at all god dam estate agents want a fortune its disguting

nikkynoo_2

Where did you move from to be with him? Are your family still in that area. If they are you need to pack very thing that you own up. Rent a van for the day load it up with your things and either go to your local council or the one you came from.

Then sit there till they give you somewhere to go. Beware that your going to have to take the first pace they give you.

Your going to have to make it seem a lot worse and that you and your children are in danger. I know it sounds a bit extreme but all you need to say is that since splitting up he has started to become arrgessive that your still in his house and your worried in case he turns on the kids.

AMIDAFT

ty nikky my family dont want to know said they aint getting involved i dont even have enough money to catch bus but i have nothing here except clothes so wudnt take much packing really, council seem to think im not priority but yet they re house people who are outta prison so gets my angry. i left where i come from as nothing there n was depressing me thought wud be a new start (((((((

Darlyd

Not being funny, but you have an excuse for all the above advice we have given. If your that desperate, you would act on it!

http://england.shelter.org.uk/

serious_saver

It's not an easy thing to do but you may have to accept that you'll need to go into temporary accommodation or a hostel. I know someone who stayed at a Salvation Army hostel for a while (admittedly without children) but ultimately it was only a few days before they were found somewhere else to stay and helped them get back on their feet.

Also what sort of benefits are you on? I don't mean this in a negative way I am just interested to know if you've been helping to pay off his mortgage with your benefits.

FatVonD

My ex husband's new parter stayed in a refuge for about a month before she was offered private accommodation, the new accommodation was in the area she was staying (not where she had come from) so might be worth your while choosing your refuge carefully if given a choice.