Urgent Help Needed Please!

suelees1

The OP has come on here to ask for help and all they got was the lot of you like flamin' hyenas circling prey. You all know the policy on here is to help not to give your very subjective opinions. Yes I'm a tax payer as well !! My job is to advise and assist wherever possible when clients come to ask for help. I'd be out of a job if I treated my clients like you lot treat some posters on here. You should be ashamed of yourselves.

cynet

babymoo wrote: »

Please excuse the bluntness of some of the other posters on this forum. We see thread after thread of people on here looking for ways to beat the system and it does get tiresome.

However if you are genuine then take the advice that has been given. It is VERY likely that the DWP will take 1 look at your circumstances and assume everything that everyone else has on here. I understand your concern for your wife and that you want to help her to be able to look after your/her children but you need to be realistic here. You need to sit with your wife again and suggest that she get another carer.

Keeping the mobility car is fine, does it come out of her DLA or yours? If it is yours then take it with you or give it back if you do not need it. If it is hers then she is within her rights to keep the car and just find someone else to drive it.

As the others have suggested I would start to look at private renting and learning to go about things on your own and your wife needs to do the same.

It is a very noble thing to want to continue to care for her but at the end of the day you will be seen in the same light as everyone else has taken you. Build your lifes back up seperately and stay in touch for the children's sake but don't eat meals there, dont be there all day every day and don't continue to care for your wife. By all means help her to find someone who can continue to do this. This is what DLA is for.

If your that worried that she can't cope without you then contact social services who will put her in touch with someone who can help.

Thank you and thank you to the other decent minded people with there help and responses

Anubis_2

suelees1 wrote: »

The OP has come on here to ask for help and all they got was the lot of you like flamin' hyenas circling prey. You all know the policy on here is to help not to give your very subjective opinions. Yes I'm a tax payer as well !! My job is to advise and assist wherever possible when clients come to ask for help. I'd be out of a job if I treated my clients like you lot treat some posters on here. You should be ashamed of yourselves.

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As for the remark about Carers Allowance, this is taxable, therefore if the OP claims benefits it is deducted off income - so, if he is entitled to 70 in IS for example, the carers is taken off that, so he would get 15 IS.
Babymoo's advice should be helpful to you.

You are in a difficult situation, but in reality, you may be better staying together, but in separate rooms if you can so you each have your own space. Think of it as being a live in lodger in shared accommodation