Is it just me or does anyone else feel like this?

MinniMe_2

thanks scotsbbride - I am pretty clear on what I don't want - its more what I do want that I need to get clear in my head!

I don't feel we need a theme but everyone keeps asking what it is and this makes me feel like we need a theme ( only theme I would really like OH has said no to )

23rdspiral

thanks for the confession.

no. it's not just you. i promise. we've been engaged so long now that people have almost stopped asking when the wedding is going to be!

truth is we were best mates for 2 years before dating, then bought a house a year later, and now 8 years after that have just bought a second house. i like party's but dont like stress (or my family) much!

i'd just like a big party in a field somewhere (using a mates circus big top would be fun), & i could get staff discount on a stunning registry office. but OH wants to 'keep up with his work mates' and hire a stately home, but they were all stunning thin brides and i'm not going to be that so the photos wont look the same anyway. his mother cant understand why we wouldnt use a church (erm, we're not chrisitan), my dad doesnt see why it would cost a few hundred let alone what the going rate is! and my mum switches from wanting to plan it all to saying we're stupid for wanting to get married :0(

so all in all, i feel like i cant be bothered! wow. can't believe i've just admitted that.

eleanora_

jemb wrote: »

I got asked about my theme from MOH as she was doing invites, I said wedding??? :rotfl:

Hey, that's my theme too - we should start a club! :rotfl: I just want to wear a lovely dress, H2B to wear a sharp suit (he's very excited about suit ideas ), bridesmaid (sister) to wear a nice dress (she has great taste so no worries there), some good music to be played, and everyone to have a good time. Can't be bothered thinking of a theme!

23rdspiral wrote: »

i'd just like a big party in a field somewhere (using a mates circus big top would be fun), & i could get staff discount on a stunning registry office.

Ooh, I LOVE the big-top-in-a-field idea. It sounds gorgeous and relaxed and fun and it's your day, so do it your way (well, maybe a few compromises for your H2B )!

MinniMe_2

well done for admitting it 23rd!! - oh and I know the feeling - I don't like my family very much either!

Scotsbride

MinniMe wrote: »

morning all,

I probably just need to get it off my chest so sorry in advance.

Firstly, don't get me wrong, I can't wait to marry my OH BUT everyone keeps telling me that I should be enjoying planning the wedding and the I should know what I want - and the truth is, I'm not enjoying planning it and I don't really know what I want.

I know everyone (MUM, MIL) all have ideas of what it should be - and are more than happy to tell me - BUT I am just finding the whole thing really a bit like a chore.

Is it just me?

It totally not just you I feel the same at times. I think we're lying if we don't especially when things don't go like how we would like them

themadvix

I'm with you all too - I find all the decision making so stressful, especially with my mother who keeps telling me I'm not being practical or that that's not "how it's done".:mad: Who cares "how it's done", it's MY wedding (and my fiance's obviously!)!!

So you're definitely not alone Minnime!

Vicky

MinniMe_2

themadvix - my mum says the same stuff but in the next breath reminds me that its our wedding so its up to us!! Make up your mind woman!!!

we are going to see a florist at the weekend so hopefully i wont end up in a tissy about it all again!

themadvix

Are you sure we don't share a mum?! My MIL2B is just the same too.

Good luck with the florist - it's something I have on my to-do list for today!

amy_lou_4

Me and my boyfriend would love to get married and we have thought about it just doing it really simply, but I wouldn't want to waste the opportunity for a good party and getting all our friends together! I wouldn't even know where to begin though, despite watching Four Weddings hehe! My brother just got married and their wedding was amazing, my sister-in-law (abis21 on here) did it all with her family so I might just get her to sort mine out ;-) I know she will be getting bored without anything to organise after their honeymoon...

ab7167

I'm getting married a week on Friday, and I found the key to being relaxed is to not care too much (at all!) about what anyone else thinks. My OH and I sat down and worked out what our least favourite bits of all the weddings we've been to were and then planned a day that didn't include them. For reference, we both hate

1./ Only being invited to the evening - all our guest are coming for the full day
2./ Hours and hours and hours of photos - we have 45 minutes scheduled and there are drinks and nibbles available
3./ No children - we have 50 adults and 16 children (15 under 5...), but then 2 of them are our own...
4./ Hanging around - our day has been planned to avoid too much of this
5./ Too much on the table (favours, sprinkles, etc) - we have flowers and wine (lots of it!)
6./ Bridesmaids trying to steal the show - I've got my 3yr old daughter and no one else
7./ Cheesy DJ's - OH's brother has done us a playlist and hotel is lending us their Bose sounddock.
8./ Long speeches - only best man, my dad and OH will do one. OH will probably manage about 2 minutes if that, best man is under STRICT ORDERS and my dad jokes about only being able to speak in 50min blocks (uni lecturer), but he has been warned...
9./ Wandering around the countryside in cars and buses between venues - we are having the whole day in one place, ceremony, reception and all the overnight accomodation

Make your own list and see how you can improve on other weddings! I have no theme, just a colour, and basically I decided not to care about the details too much, just wanted to get married and everything else will come out in the wash.

Hope that helps..