How much rent?

Kara_P

Obviously it depends on your parent/s and their situation but I was fortunate that my parents took so little off me as in their words they were allowing me to save more of my income for a deposit. 1/3 pay whilst living with parents seems slightly high to me but everyone is different.

RuthnJasper

Kara_P wrote: »

Obviously it depends on your parent/s and their situation but I was fortunate that my parents took so little off me as in their words they were allowing me to save more of my income for a deposit. 1/3 pay whilst living with parents seems slightly high to me but everyone is different.

I paid less than £100 per month to my parents (though I did have the smallest room in the house), but I also paid for all my 'phone calls (Dad would draw up an itemised list whenever the bill came in), part of the TV licence, and did all my own cooking and washing. My mum and I also used to take it in turns to do the family Sunday lunch.

It does, though, as Kara_P says, depend on your personal circumstances and relationship with your parents. Why not write down what YOU think is reasonable, ask your parents to do the same, then sit down together and swap pieces of paper? Then, you can take it from there.

Whatever happens, I wish you lots of luck. xx

Kara_P

RuthnJasper wrote: »

I paid less than £100 per month to my parents (though I did have the smallest room in the house), but I also paid for all my 'phone calls (Dad would draw up an itemised list whenever the bill came in), part of the TV licence, and did all my own cooking and washing. My mum and I also used to take it in turns to do the family Sunday lunch.

It does, though, as Kara_P says, depend on your personal circumstances and relationship with your parents. Why not write down what YOU think is reasonable, ask your parents to do the same, then sit down together and swap pieces of paper? Then, you can take it from there.

Whatever happens, I wish you lots of luck. xx

I also paid for all of my calls, Virgin box and food for lunch each day. Definately a good idea to sit down together and go over things. I suppose it help if your parents see you being responsible with your money i.e. if you go out and blow all your money they may think taking more from you might make you more responsible in the long run... just a thought

MacMickster

soccermom wrote: »

I cant get my 22 year old to pay more than £30 a week without kicking off. He thinks we have a duty of care have threatened to kick him out I just need to follow through.

Rather than go the whole hog and kick him out, why not try withdrawing all of the services that you provide in addition to a roof over his head - food, washing, ironing etc - the things that he would have to provide for himself if he was renting a room somewhere else.

After a few weeks sit him down and look at some ads for rented rooms and the cost of these and then let him suggest what he thinks is a fair amount of board to pay.

If you can't get him to respond like an adult at that stage, then the best thing for him in the long run would probably be to follow through and make him get a place of his own.

We have already told our teenage son, currently at uni, that when he starts earning we will charge him a market rent (but with the extra services thrown in for free) to get him used to paying his own way. We are in a fortunate position where we are able to save this money for him and will give it back when he needs it in the future as a deposit to buy his own place.

FireWyrm

soccermom wrote: »

I cant get my 22 year old to pay more than £30 a week without kicking off. He thinks we have a duty of care have threatened to kick him out I just need to follow through.

Gosh, that's terrible and what a horrible position to be in. When I was 16 I was working full time and the only wage earner in the household. What I brought in fed us, paid the rent and the utilities. At 22, he's an adult and should be acting like one. I would just work to rule, stop providing his meals, his clothes, his washing and anything else you have been doing. He couldnt get a rabbit hut in a garden for that price and he should know it too.

...Duty of care ended at 18 when he stopped being a child. Personally, I would have ended his duty of care at 16. He should count himself lucky he wasnt living 40 years ago when most children left school permanently at 14.

mhh1981

I think 200-250 is far too much imo.

If you look at it this way, he's 18 - has 225 worth of outgoings from his 700pm salary.

200pm would leave him 275 pm to live on - and that doesnt include petrol, going out etc. I presume??

He's 18 - so needs to actually have a life as well rather than live as a hermit.

I think 30pw is a fair compromise - and if you use the phone line then you should pay that as well.

daisiegg

Congratulations on your apprentice and good on you for being so responsible about your living costs!

When I left uni and started my teacher training, I was paid £600 a month for that. I can't remember exactly but the figure £125 springs to mind...I think that's what I paid my parents each month. I also for that period did the cleaning so they saved the £130 or so they would have paid their cleaner each month.

I think you need to negotiate with what your parents are expecting, but in your situation I think maybe about £150-£200. I'd also make a point of making sure you help out around the house - I don't know your parents, but my mum would much rather have had a contribution towards the labour of running a household than a substantial financial contribution!

daisiegg

(also, good on your parents for making you pay your way! I know far too many people in their mid twenties who have never moved out of home and have never stuck at a job because their parents have made it far too easy for them to stay at home rent free in cushy conditions!)

hazyjo

I'm with mhh1981! It's very easy enough to spend £50+ on a night out - certainly more than once a week. You're only young once and have enough to pay when you're older and independent! How much are 'house shares' going for in the area? Should definitely be a bit less than that IMO. It's not like you'll have any/much say in the house, how it's run, or what you watch on telly if you're all in the lounge together. You are and always will be 'under their roof', so I don't think you should be paying for an equal share as you would with a house share. Definitely check out some prices.

Have your parents indicated how much they're expecting, or how much they need/have lost now you're working?

I'm probably very out of touch with what kids at home pay their parents. I remember paying £50 a month, but that was over 20 years ago! Maybe £200 is about right when you take inflation into account!

I would definitely give you your own iron and ironing board for your room and say there you go, get used to it! Would also be nice if you cooked now and again or did the washing/washing up. It's things like that which help you in the future.

Budgeting is obviously hugely important, but you're only on an apprenticeship. Am sure there'll be higher earning power in years to come.

Jx

Wyndham

I think £225 from a £700 salary for car and phone is a large proportion. If these things are important, then there has to be an acceptance that they cost money. And other things have to come out of wages as well.

As with others, I'd suggest around a 1/3 for rent. And if (due to other commitments) that doesn't leave much, then it's a life lesson....