csa and overnight stays

sandraroffey

she has told the csa she doesnt care about the £5 a week. what was worrying her was the fact that they thought she had been overpaid because of what he was saying. one of the posters on here has clarified that and thanks to them for that.

clearingout

sandraroffey wrote: »

of course. but how do you deal with a chap who can never be wrong, everything he says and does cannot be spoken against - he is GOD. he is wonderful, how can anything he does POSSIBLY be a problem for anyone, especially the kids. and now he is saying they have to come and live with him!!!!!!!!!! just what planet is he on???

LOL. There are a few of us with the same ex on here!

EclipsedMind

My experience is never take a new squeeze / partner to a child handover as it is a red rag to a bull. If you need support take a friend who will not interfere. The new partner should not have dealings with the Ex as its just going to cause issues to both Ex and the partner. Its a bit like rubbing salt into wounds. If the NRP is having a turbulent love life that is his issue to deal with as is his employment. Quibbling over 4 nights is really petty tbh from both sides like Speedster said.

The OP is clearly empassioned as is the PWCP but neither should be having direct involvement in the issue. Your daughter and the NRP need to deal with this as adults with no egging on from the sidelines. If there is a genuiune issue with the childrens safety then you should be asking social services to get involved and looking at contact centres.

The NRP is seeing his kids atm and it should be built upon. Praise the good and see if he can sort himself out. Its possible he is getting grief from his new squeeze about the lack of job or the fact the kids are underfoot and he will have to make a choice. If you push him he might make the wrong one so cut him some slack for a while and let him enjoy being a father. Once contact is cut you can bet it will be harder to get maintenance out of him if he starts working.

As I have said before both NRP and PWC really need to try and look at each others perspective and work to make the best for the kids. Circling the wagons and falling back on either PWC or NRP mantras does little help the kids and just continues a pointless war.


EM