Possible fueding in-laws HELP!

FamilyFeud

Hi all,

I need some advice. This story as most, is not as straight forward as you may think. First of all my bf of nearly 5 years moved in together a year ago. But prior to me moving in with my bf we had a long distance relationship. We have known each other for much longer as my bf is my step dads nephew. So both my family have known my partners family for quite a few years. Recently there has been some amonosity between the two mothers, not directly but comments either said to me or my bf from each others mothers. Obviously in conversation this can effect our relationship have heated arguements etc. My bf let slip something last night that there has been more negative comments from my potential mother in law then has been said to me but again all behind my mums back, but they all make out she is innocent!!! Now my mum isnt the most pc person if im honest and sometimes she is too honest for her own good, which I have picked up from her. Now I am honestly fed up with all of it nothing is ever directly said between them two. I'm fed up with hearing what my mum thinks of her and im sure my bf is fed up with hearing what his mum is saying. With all this happening my partner has kind of grown resent for my mother as I need to vent what she is saying to someone and it kind of came out to my partner which I know is my fault, I cant make my partner like her but everything is behind each others backs and im in the middle of I know my mum is sometimes a hard women to take, but I dont think its fair that they make her out to be a complete villian behind her back, my bf mother in law is totally not innocent. What do I do? Is like being back in a school yard and quite frankly I feel like telling both of them grow up air their graces and get on with it.

Sorry if none of this makes sense im pretty sure I dont know the full story but it's effecting my relationship with my other half and it shouldnt be that way. God forbid if this continues and we get married!!!!!!! HELP!

BugglyB

You can't change anyones behaviour except your own! I would calmly tell each mother and your partner that you're sick of all this and you simply won't hear it anymore. Then if they start treat them like children 'I SAID I DONT WANT TO HEAR ANOTHER WORD ABOUT IT' :rotfl:

FamilyFeud

Thanks BugglyB it is very much like that it just such a difficult situation and im fed up of it. I love my bf very much and dont want to have any conversations about she did this or hasnt done that blah blah blah