first time having sex

Debbie_A_3

Hi Ashaput,

I hope that you are OK, and that you got some emergency contraception if you had unprotected sex. You should also ask your doctor about checking for STDs. A boyfriend who talks about pulling sperm from your body rings lots of alarm bells.

It is difficult trying to help you, though, because it is not clear who you are. Some personal details would be really helpful. For example, I might say that: I am a teacher and I live in the UK midlands. I am in my early 40s, married with three children.

Debbie

ashaput

Debbie_A wrote: »

Some personal details would be really helpful. For example, I might say that: I am a teacher and I live in the UK midlands. I am in my early 40s, married with three children.

Debbie

Okay here is my short personal details. I am a teacher, I used to stay in UK for about 3 months for vacation. I am 24, single, and have no cild.

suki1964

MrsAtobe wrote: »

Suki, I'm sure you don't mean to, but you are coming across as being somewhat sarcastic in that post. I did look at the OP's home page URL, but before reading the home page, didn't realise that the OP was outside the UK. Perhaps I'm being insular or obtuse, but I assumed that MSE was mostly aimed at UK residents/ex pats?

Yes MSE is for the uk and ex pats. It's certainly not for trolls and spammers

This poster posts early mornings from around 3am uk time which shows it's not a uk poster or even mainland Europe. The English is diabolical. The home page is to some financial company and the link the poster used to drop in every inane post it made ( a poor copied reply to some pretty innocuous threads) screams out spammer. There are a lot of companies that pay good money to have people drop their links on boards like this. Most of the spam on these boards is done in the early hours. Most don't bother to try to hide it just flood the boards. Others spend weeks or months here making two or three posts a day posting in the pattern described above

Perhaps I am wrong and it's not a spammer. All the same the help and advice given re Nhs and FPA is wasted. Perhaps the poster would like to say which country they are posting from so the correct information could be given

As someone else has shown the poster is very inconsistent about it's identity. Student? Teacher? Child?

Dave101t

so your 24 and no one ever told you the mechanics of sex or what to expect on the 1st time? is the uk so liberal as other nations seem so 'unenlightened'? well i suppose we do have a 10-15 year old sex activity bracket.

1echidna

Just go and see your doctor darling, if you are not registered with a doctor go to a chemist and explain your situation there. They should have a private room.

jamespir

aww scary sex for the first time and your 24 ignore you parents your an adult now tell them if they dont like it ,its tough

but go to the doctor or your local pharmcy they will help you best
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cause your pulling out thing isnt best form of contraception

neithers diet coke (which aparently a large percentage of teens here thought it was ):eek

ashaput

I post this thread just because I really need someone to talk to. I knew that was my fault to not use any contraception. Just laugh at me that I just found out there is such medicine like Morning After Pill after posting this thread.
I am now in Malaysia. I already have Morning After Pill 2 days after. I don't know if I still need to go to the doctor.

londonsurrey

Selamat pagi, Ashaput.

We all live and learn. It's good that you had the courage to ask, rather than suffering in silence and risking possible pregnancy. So your common sense in that case was very good.

As for the morning after pill:
Your next period may come early or late. If it doesn't arrive within a couple of days of the expected time, see a doctor.

The morning-after pill does not protect you from pregnancy for the rest of your menstrual cycle. So either abstain from sex or use a barrier method like a condom.

The morning-after pill is not good at protecting against ectopic pregnancies, although these are rare. If you get lower tummy pain or abnormal bleeding in the weeks after using it, see your doctor.

http://www.netdoctor.co.uk/sex_relationships/facts/morningafterpill.htm


Purely out of concern for you, I would urge you to think very carefully about unprotected sex.

http://www.netdoctor.co.uk/health_advice/facts/venerealdiseases.htm

A condom protects against a lot. The other option, if he's really committed to you, is for him to undergo a sex health check.

He ought to get an all clear in about 6 months (it's how long the HIV test takes). You could use condoms in the meantime.

j.e.j.

ashaput wrote: »

Okay.. But this is the truth. I am a teacher, I also am a student since I take another major subject in a University, and I am also a child. Is there something wrong with that? I did have some ex boyfriends but I never have had sex with them. I use this accout together with my friend, and I think this what makes all seems confusing. I did let her to make some posts. Apologise for this mess. Should I tell you all about myself?

Perhaps this would account for the seeming contradictions.. if the user-name 'ashaput' is being used by more than one person.

bellodharma

you shouldn't have made your account available to another person making you look like just a spammer here or a poser. anyway regarding your concern, please do see an OB and let her/him check you if there's any more bleeding or some kind of mucus that's going out of your body.

its better to seek professional help than to just post and check on what others might think of your condition. you could be okay or not. only the doctor will tell you otherwise. hope you'll find a doctor who's patient and will hear what you're going to say.