Benbenandme's Next Installment ...

chevalier

Sorry benben, I didn't mean to imply that you would take it down the solicitors route, rather that ex might. And I still think you are right not to put DS through that. Just the thought of my child being searched would be enough to make ME refuse.
chev

benbenandme

Chev you didn't imply that about solicitors at all, it a couple of friends from work who keep pushing me to see one

So, another night with very little sleep and another day yesterday with way under my ww points limit eaten, the scales are showing a good loss for this week, we'll find out what the official ones say tonight after parents evening

Now time to go and make myself beautiful before I see cutie at school today, hoing he'll say something today

benbenandme

Had a little chat with him today after almost bumping into him in a corridor, he asked how ds was, I wasked how his day was etc, then his mentor came barging along and that was that again :cool: He smiled at me in the staff meeting this morning too

Sold a bin on ebay so another £5 into the holiday pot :T

I'm off to ds parents evening in about an hour, mums coming round to have ds., and then I've got ww straight after.

benbenandme

£4 profit from a games offer, on its way to the holiday pot too

benbenandme

Back from Weightwatchers and I lost 2.5lbs this week meaning I've lost over 10% of my body weight this year :j :j

Parents evening wasn't so successful, his teacher is very concerned about his behaviour and has advised me to go back to the doctors for another referral Here we go again ....

chevalier

benbenandme wrote: »

Parents evening wasn't so successful, his teacher is very concerned about his behaviour and has advised me to go back to the doctors for another referral Here we go again ....

Sorry to hear this Benben, I kinda got the impression that things had been improving with him, at least at school. Is it just from when your ex has gone to prison that the behaviour has worsened or is it more long term than that. Just trying to pinpoint if that has had an effect, that might be temporary.
hugs mate, very hard for you
chev

benbenandme

Thanks Chev, his teacher said he was fine for the first half-term and since then he has had some kind of issue every day ... things like destroying his work, being unkind to other kids etc, but it always happend when shes not there, when they have a different teacher or its her ppa time (planning), she said he can't cope with change or with having a different adult in charge, all things that have been said before.

They have a teaching assistant in the class who has a daughter with major psychological issues (anorexia/self-harming etc) and she picked up on Ben straight away apparently and said his behaviour was very similar to her daughter at that age :eek:

She said its not attention seeking or lack of discipline, its more than that and he needs more professional help

benbenandme

She did say about how he loves drama and focuses really well on that so when I got home I have emailed the local kids drama group to see if he can join, but tbh I dread any kind of activities with him as his behaviour is so awful

dangers

Hugs to you both.

I know a few children who can't cope with a change to routine and their behaviour is noticeably different if they have a different teacher.

At least they acknowledge that there is an underlying issue and it isn't that ds is naughty!

benbenandme

Have been reading a few articles about ODD (Oppositional Defiant Disorder) which is something they said he had tendancies towards when he was assessed a couple of years ago, and he now ticke every single box, the articles could have been written for him, they are exactly describing ds and his behaviour. I will print them off and take them with me to the doctors