How Do You Cope With Endless Job Rejections?

925dancer

I do think you come across as very angry which is not in the least bit helpful when looking for work. At no point have I been angry, perhaps because I have been on both sides of the fence (having to read endless irrelevant CV's in my last job for a role we advertised).

Every post you write bubbles over with a little bit of aggression and I do wonder if this comes over in real life.

People who don't know how down I am comment on just how well I appear to be doing and they don't know how I'm coping. Truth is I'm not but I'll be damned if any prospective employer or people I meet are going to know that!

Desperation and anger, however justified you are in feeling it, are not attractive qualities in a prospective employee.

londoner1998

Truegho wrote: »

When you get job rejection after job rejection, how do you cope? How do you keep from getting too enraged about it? And how do you sustain your belief that you WILL eventually get a job?

Hi
I'm at that stage too... the last rejection came on Monday for a job I think I did really, really well... which I probably did but i was a case of 'someone had more experience'. I had high hopes for that job, so after about 5 minutes of disappointment and two tears, I picked myself up and said to myself 'I can;t aford to cry over this-there is no point it is in the past already. I have two interviews lined up so I have to focus on that and be positive'.
And that's that. It is in the past. Ask for feedback, think about it and incorporate it on to the next interview/job application. The way I see it, it is training. I always think of actors- they audition for each part and invetably, they don;t get them all, but that's the name of the game-... you keep putting yourslef forward.

I second the advice ot go for what you can get and what you are suitable for... don't waste time, but also keep an openess... you never know.

The bottom line is that anger and negative emotions will not bring you a job... so allow yourseff to feel it for a bit and then, move on.

Good luck

bluenoseam

I pick myself up, dust myself off & realise that hey, i maybe didn't get the job, but 1 - someone did and i'm happy for them, 2 - someone somewhere IS having a much worse time than i am, 3 - it's not the worst news i've had by a long shot. Would i prefer it if i was the one getting the job, yeah, but ultimately i realise that if something isn't right for me then i won't get it, absolutely ZERO point in getting worked up over rejection as it's not helping you and will cloud judgement & application of any feedback, doesn't mean i don't get disappointed (believe me, i do) but when you understand the reality of the situation (points 1, 2 & 3) it means you can keep your head & not let it get on top of you.

Also it would probably help if you dropped the whole "jobless merseyside" act - between you and me i'd love to be in the job situation in Merseyside, i live in the UK's fourth or fifth worst area for employment possibilities (North Ayrshire), when you understand there are jobs out there you'll find a whole different attitude & persona will come through - granted those jobs aren't exactly what you're looking for, but when they're paying a wage, they're exactly the kind of job you NEED. I want to be a millionaire, no doubts about it, but i NEED bills paying - that readjustment of priority helps a lot.

londoner1998

Truegho wrote: »

To 925dancer: I know, I totally agree with you. Some people on here seem to be under the grave misconception that, with just a few tweaks of your CV etc. etc., you can automatically improve your chances of interview. Sadly, in this rubbishy climate, it just doesn't happen.

Too many applicants chasing so few jobs, too many agencies lying to candidates and messing them around left right and centre etc etc.

I just wonder will this accursed recession EVER end!

Everything ends... because things change, always and nothing ever stays the same forever. That is the only truth.
You need to shake off that negative outlook. I know, I know- these are very hard times, but the reality is that it will not help you with your job search. At all.

Jerryjerryjerry

I had such a hard time as we all are having in getting a job. Whenever I got to interview stage (I consider an interview, gold dust).... I would put my best foot forward and do well. Then i'd get that letter/email/phone call telling me it was close, but there was one other candidate that they favoured over me. I'd have a jolly good cry and then move onto the next phase of looking/applying. I think its good to let it all out... obviously not on the phone to prospective employer, but to a family member/partner. Have a few drinks (if you can afford it), go to sleep and start all over again in the morning.

I've never known it so bad. I remember a time in the 80's when you'd go to one agency on the thursday and be in a job on either the friday or monday. I also remember a time when agencies would send you on courses (paid for by them!!!), to update your computer packages. Imagine that happening now????! (by the way, i'm admin/secretarial).

fedster

I am sorry but people are always moaning that there is no jobs, that Agencies are not replying etc, but my experience has been the exact opposite, i have not got a Degree, and did not have much experience when i start applying but after doing 2 casual jobs , i got into a Warehouse via an Agency, and worked my socks of, was never late, thus i was rewarded with a Permnant Contract, and hopefully i will progress even higher in the forsseeable future.#

There is actually a Niche people can target if you get a Job in a Warehouse, most of the Guys who work in the Warehouses i have been in, dont speak English, or there English is really poor, by simply communicating well you will get noticed, also the Eastern Europeans although have a high work Ethic, there general Interperesonal Skills are quite poor, so by just being Polite, a good Communicator and work hard you can easily outshine most of the Operatives in a Warehouse and get yourself noticed.

People love moaning, but never think outside the Box, if Eastern Europeans can get get work though Agenices, why are the British Born and bred finding it hard to!!!

SevenOfNine

I think the covering letter which accompanies your CV can be equally important. Following redundancy I was rubbish with the CV, so I got some free help from a local job club and also a NextStep advisor, though I chose my own layout format, they helped phrase things in a clearer way. For covering letter tips I did a Google search. I had no problems if it was an application form so stuck to my own style/words (& no covering letters required).

My failure was at interview - jeez I was rubbish, wittering like a moron or simply couldn't think at all. SO........got some free training for that as well. One to one interview skills and panel interviews, brilliant and definitely helped me, my confidence and my approach. I could see what a plonker and how ill prepared I'd been previously. Took nearly 5 months but I finally succeeded.

Grab any freebie help you can find, anything to give you a bit more 'edge' over the other applicants. I also started 2 different lots of voluntary work to include in my application/CV and to help 'keep my hand in', my confidence up and a useful 2nd referee source. See the do-it website for voluntary work in your area.

It's very hard to keep picking yourself up after endless rejection, but what's the alternative. Unemployment definitely seems worse this year than last year. Fingers crossed something will come your way. Good luck.

iamana1ias

fedster wrote: »

There is actually a Niche people can target if you get a Job in a Warehouse, most of the Guys who work in the Warehouses i have been in, dont speak English, or there English is really poor, by simply communicating well you will get noticed

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inspirespirit

I'm sat nerves a jangling this weekend as I will find out on Monday if I have got through to second interview stage for a job I really want.

Although I do think it is right that you don't have to put your age anymore on CV's/job apps, I do think it sometimes comes as a shock for the interviewer when you turn up and are obviously no spring chicken (I am almost 58 and walk with sticks - crappo knees).
I did have a really good interview, but I thought that with my last interview, and didn't get it (was also told I was pipped at post - wonder if they tell everyone the same).

Hulahoops

It's difficult because they never tell you real feedback - my latest was that I looked nervous???!!! I wasn't and I could have done the job stood on my head and I answered each question a reason that you were too confident, too experienced, not experienced enough, annoying or as simple as they couldn't see you fitting in with the team would be acceptable