Can I move back in to jointly owned house?

pigpen

Gavin83 wrote: »

A solicitor won't remove him without a good reason. Where does she say he is verbally abusive?

You do what everyone else does.. lie!

Where does it say he is lovely and kind and sweet?

kingfisherblue

Obviously the best thing to do is speak to a solicitor, preferably one who specialises in family law. Having said that, my situation was similar in some ways to the OP. I am also carer for my disabled child. My son's disabilities are quite complex and he will always need care, and the house has been adapted to include a downstairs wetroom for him.

When my ex left, I stayed in the house with our three children. He tried to force me to sell, but I refused. Instead, I sought legal advice. To cut a long story short, my son and I have been granted the right to live in our home until either I die, my son dies, or I remarry or cohabit for six months or more.

I get government help with the mortgage as my ex hasn't paid a penny towards the house since he left. I pay the remainder of the mortgage from my benefits, as well as the endowments, insurnace, and costs of maintaining the property. I will be responsible for paying the shortfall on the endowments.

When the house is eventually sold, any remaining mortgaage will have to be paid. There is also a charge on the house from legal aid. Any profits will be split 50/50 between myself and my ex (or our estates if either of us have died). I believve this is known as a Mesher order.

My ex denied our son's disabilities in court and I had to obtain proof that he did have the conditions and needs that I said he had. I don't think the judge was very impressed when he found that my ex was trying to wriggle out of allowing his children having a secure home, especially as rented accommodation could not guarantee to have the adaptations needed. He accepted my proof and made the order as above.

Legal advice is definitely the way to go.

dirtysexymonkey

pigpen wrote: »

A solicitor can have him forcibly removed from the house leaving you there with the children.. you say he is there making you miserable and being verbally abusive.. my stepmother did it with my dad.

but hes not doing that. a decent person wouldnt tell someone to lie! why should he be forced to leave his home that hes paid for so his soon to be ex wife can move in and house her children. only one is his so why should he pay for a 4 bedroom house! she cant afford to pay for the house himself so why shouldnt she give him the opportunity to buy her out?

princessdreamer

dirtysexymonkey wrote: »

but hes not doing that. a decent person wouldnt tell someone to lie! why should he be forced to leave his home that hes paid for so his soon to be ex wife can move in and house her children. only one is his so why should he pay for a 4 bedroom house! she cant afford to pay for the house himself so why shouldnt she give him the opportunity to buy her out?

Yeah I mean why would any man want his child and their siblings to have a nice home better if he spent the money down the pub lol,

Sorry but I'm so sick of men not giving a damn about anyone other than themselves.

newcook

Im a woman but I agree with DSM.

it would be different if it had been her ex who had left the home 7 months ago – then I would say yes, take the house (if you can afford it) to stop as much disruption to the kids lives as much as possible but the OP is doing this because her landlord is selling the house she lives in. Either way she is going to have to move so why not into a LHA and get an order to stick the house on the market?