Wedding jitters?

Dekazer

In honour of the late, great Peter Faulk, just one more thing...

Years after my very close friends went through a similar experience (as per my above pst) the husband revealed something. My friend was a smoker who had tried on and off for years to quit. Her husband made no bones about the fact he disliked it. However, he later admitted that his anger about her continued smoking contributed to his laziness about the housework.

Could it be that something is bothering your fiance and he's being passive aggressive about it?

I must say, also, is there a compromise? Could he iron shirts daily and just leave the board out? Or agree that it must go away for weekends? Maybe your tidying standards are just naturally higher, and you could do to relax about it a wee bit? (In the kindest possible way )

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codemonkey

Could I just throw in a quick comment about the shoes thing. Is he naturally messy? I only ask, because I am like a mess magnet. I can walk into a tidy room and have messed it up in 2 minutes, not because I mean to, but because it just seems to happen. I kind of go into autopilot, so my shoes come off at the door, my jacket goes wherever I happen to be standing at the time, as do my keys and bag and so on. H2B can tell where I've been by the trail of stuff that gets left behind. Then I keep meaning to move them, and forget. So perhaps the shoes thing isn't some kind of passive-aggressive lack of respect for you, but just...well...not thinking.

Bear in mind that when we get stressed we build stuff up in our heads to be bigger than it is. I know that at the moment for me, work is such a nightmare, that the smallest things are irritating me, and H2B just laughs which makes it so much worse.

You're welcome to join us on the diet thread if you like, but nobody will think you look bad on your wedding day.

I agree that your OH should be helping you out more with the housework and if he says he wont because he works full time I'd remind him that it's no longer the actual 1950s. If he still refuses, I'd just stop doing the parts that directly effect him. So no more washing his clothes, ironing his shirts, cooking his dinner, washing his plates and so on. As for things like hoovering and dusting every day. Screw it. Nobody died from having a dusty floor. Life is just too short for housework.

Well done on the uni marks by the way. Can't be easy with a young child so you should be proud of yourself.