Walking to school

patchwork_cat

concerned43 wrote: »

Really! - how would she know if the child was on the road - she would need to be able to see the child to do that - or does the OP have eyes on the back of her head?
The OP was in the wrong - simple as that

No the child is 7, not 3. By 7 most children have some road awareness, probably more than 13 year old boys in fact!!

MrsE_2

concerned43 wrote: »

Regardless of the pettiness of it - there is a mother who thought her DD should not be walking behind an adult responsible for her safety. If that child stepped onto the road then you would not have seen her. Its not about holding her hand (tho I don't understand why you don't) The fact was she was not within your sight! and therefore the mother had every right to pull you up about it.

Perhaps the "mother" should be taking her to school then;)

froogs

No, she's being silly and defensive.

I'm very protective of my children, ridiculously so actually but realise I have to let go. My 6 year old, very sensible girl is allowed to walk a little ahead in certain places, further than two feet.

When you're walking you get a feel for what is appropriate where you are.

Nicki

concerned43 wrote: »

Really! - how would she know if the child was on the road - she would need to be able to see the child to do that - or does the OP have eyes on the back of her head?
The OP was in the wrong - simple as that

I don't have eyes in the back of my head, nor do I consider myself to be particularly spatially aware (you should see me try to reverse park) but I would know instantly if someone walking 2 feet behind me lagged further behind or stepped out into the road. It is less than an arms length, you really would notice that something was different! Can you not sense when someone comes and stands immediately behind you in a queue for example even without looking round and seeing them?

spikyspiky

clearingout wrote: »

what do you expect? You criticised her - I accept you did it with reason - so she's retaliating. Normal human behaviour. Why are you outraged? Tit for tat between separated and divorced couples is also entirely normal. Ignore it. If she hasn't corrected the car seat problem by next time she takes the child out, refuse any access until the matter is sorted. Not hard.

I didn't say I was outraged, I said I was horrified that her Mother would inply I was putting stepdd in danger. It implies a lack of care and without going into details, coming from her its laughable.

spikyspiky

concerned43 wrote: »

Really! - how would she know if the child was on the road - she would need to be able to see the child to do that - or does the OP have eyes on the back of her head?
The OP was in the wrong - simple as that

I don't need to have eyes in the back of my head. This is a child I have walked along with every school day for the last 3 years. She does not run or walk off ever. She is not allowed to and she does as she is told. I was not walking of in front, she was dawdling, and as her own mother pointed out, was within arms reach. I don't believe I was in the wrong, I orginally posted because I was so shocked that she could basically accuse me of putting her dd in danger. Having thought about it further if she had honestly thought that she would have stopped her car and said something. She didn't. She didn't slow down or wave or stop to say hello to her own dd either. But thankyou for your opinion anyway.

shellsuit

concerned43 wrote: »

Regardless of the pettiness of it - there is a mother who thought her DD should not be walking behind an adult responsible for her safety. If that child stepped onto the road then you would not have seen her. Its not about holding her hand (tho I don't understand why you don't) The fact was she was not within your sight! and therefore the mother had every right to pull you up about it.

And if it was such a problem, why didn't the Mother pull the OP up about it as it was happening if she'd seen it?? Why wait?

She was just being petty for the sake of it.

Why don't you understand why the OP doesn't hold the child's hand?

Maybe the child doesn't want to. Maybe the OP doesn't feel the need to.

Why don't you question why the Mother isn't holding her daughter's hand and taking her to school every day?