I Am Very Worried

KiKi

JCP wrote: »

Strewth! No offence, but sometimes you just need to put your foot down with parents.

I actually don't mind. She doesn't interfere with any other aspect of my life at all, and if I was travelling to Europe it wouldn't cross her mind to see if I was okay. I think it's because Aus is just so far away, and I travel alone, so unless she knows my flight details, no-one would know if anything had happened to me!

As soon as she knows I've landed she stops texting! I might get one email updating me on family stuff, but that's it until I make the flight back! She just can't bear that the plane might go down with me on it, and texting me those messages is her way of feeling a bit more secure about things, I think!

I let her have that extravagance because I hardly see her as is it - and it's not like I can receive the messages on the plane anyway!

KiKi

Pee

I have a friend who was living in Bali and other parts of Indonesia for the last year, single blonde girl, came to no harm and no horror stories, apart from a taxi driver not turning up and having to walk about three miles in torrential rain. Uncomfortbale, yes, dangerous, no.

Yes, you'll worry about her. Yes, this is normal. I don't know how you will deal with it. Drink, maybe? It's only a fortnight. Acvtually, the dr might be able to help, give you something to help for this fortnight.

What you must not do is go on and on at your daughter. She's going, it's perfectly safe, the more you say the more you look like you don't realise she's an adult - of course you do - that you don't realise she's allowed a mind of her own and the more she might feel she has to prove that she does.

We all have stuff that scares us. I'd go to Bali on my own tomorrow, well, probably not without sorting out Visas. wheras I know a coach trip around Ireland where I was organised to within an inch of my life would leave me screaming in terror. I wouldn't go to Bolivia or Central America very easily, because I know someone who has been and didn't like what I heard.

Don't undermine her or make her feel scared when there is no need for her to be. You must be an adult, wish her well, say you are looking forward to the photos and then grit your teeth and bear it.

Primmer

Please don't worry I travelled to Bali on my own and met up with friend there and then travelled back on my own. Of all the countries I have been to I felt my safest here.
There are dangers whereever you go and indeed even in this country.
In respect of the terrorist threat I was there just a few weeks before the bombs went off and had been to the clubs which were affected and felt awfuly likely to be alive - but would it stop me going back - no way and like others have said the UK is a terrorist threat.
I am sure she will have a great time but understand how as a mum you will worry anyway