Burying my wee angel cat

nerak_y

Hiya,

Yesterday i had to have my 14 year old siamese put to sleep. Totally devastated even more so as my kids didnt get time to say goodbye. My youngest desperately wants us to bury her in our garden, so today i am to pick her up from the vet to do this tonight (after my big exam, sigh).

What i am unsure about is whether she is likely to be dug up by foxes etc, as i have seen a fox in my garden in the winter time. I couldn't bear that to happen.

I know she is gone and it is just her body she lived in but we are still attached.

I am considering seeing if the vet will let my kids in to say goodbye to her, then we can have her cremated and scattered, half at our garden and half at my parents where she enjoyed many a holiday. The hardest thing ever!!

Any suggestions? kx

pixelation

So sorry for you bad news.
If you can say goodbye at the vet it might be preferable. You can plant her a rose and scatter her ashes round it. Maybe a small plaque.
I accidentally dug up a dead cat that the previous house owners had buried, very sad.

nerak_y

Ok, having spoke to vets i have decided our best course of action is have the wee lady cremated, and get her ashes back, scatter a little at my parents where she loved and bury the rest in urn here. I don't want my daughters last memory of the cat to be of her dead. Decision made! Just have to tell her now!! kx

nerak_y

pixelation wrote: »

So sorry for you bad news.
If you can say goodbye at the vet it might be preferable. You can plant her a rose and scatter her ashes round it. Maybe a small plaque.
I accidentally dug up a dead cat that the previous house owners had buried, very sad.

Thanks Pixelation, I got the chance to say goodbye as i took her but the kids were at school. Cremation and ashes sound like the safest option and saves the worry of foxes and finding her half eaten!

kx

G51shopaholic

So sorry to hear - we lost our moggie; who was 19yrs old at the beginning of 2010
Emergency vet bill included cost of cremation and we were advised we could collect her ashes.
We did this and sprinkle them in the garden. My kids didn't get to say goodbye as she had a series of fits and we rushed
her to the vet. I think they knew she wouldn't be coming back but they were still distraught when we came back without her.
I kept them off school for the next few days so they could get over the shock of what they saw.

My 1st thought when I read your post was OMG what if she's dug up by foxes. If you wanted to bury her in your garden
you'd need to dig a very deep hole and put her body in a box - depending on how big she was.

Depending on how old your kids are you could let them decide. Planting something to remember her by is a good idea.

We now have a 4yr old bengal - we've had her for 9mths. Wasn't even thinking about another pet but my neighbours knew I'd always wanted a bengal cat and they'd saw this ad on "preloved" for a good home wanted for a 3yr old bengal female and Kiia took to my kids straight away. People who come to our house can't believe she settled the 1st night she arrived. It's like she's never lived anywhere else.

My kids love Kiia (the bengal) and they told her at all about Cher (who was our old cat)and what she used to do. She has help them heel.

Take it one day at a time

Abbafan1972

Sorry to hear about your cat op - do whatever is best for you.

I lost one of my cats about 3 years ago. I rang up a local vets and the receptionist was very unsympathetic about the whole thing and she just said something along the lines of "oh we would just burn the body with all the rest" and it would cost me £25 for that, so I decided to bury her in the garden.

We dug the hole quite deep and was slabbed over the next day to stop her from being dug up.

DogsBody

We always bury in the garden - we are lucky that the garden is big, the soil is deep and we're not affecting anyones water supply or anything like that!

My worry is not so much foxes but the remaining dogs (who all love to dig), so we make sure the hole is at least 4 feet deep, line it with stones before we do the burial, and once the pet is covered over we put a slab/slabs over the top, still about 2 or 3 feet below ground level. None of ours have ever been disturbed by our dogs, random wildlife or us (accidentally).

I think it's a nice touch to have a burial/scatter ashes in a place where the dog lived most of it's life and was happy - I have 'left behind' several of my pets as I've moved house, but they were all happy where they were (if that makes sense) - I know some folk don't like to think of 'leaving their pets behind'.

spike7451

You have my sincere & heartfelt condolences.Having lost Orbit in 2009,I know the pain you are going thru.

nerak_y

Thank you all for your kind words, I don't think some people quite get the emotions involved when our furry family pass over. Harder still is that i had to MAKE that decision for her :-( However, it was the right thing to do, and she is at peace now.

I instructed the vets yesterday to send her for private cremation, not overly moneysaving but in terms of avoiding the fox worry and also that i have a fair few large trees,there for root systems in the garden i feel this route is best for us. I am happy we are going to scatter some ashes at my folks, as she did get to run free there in the fields and loved her holidays there.

G51SHOPAHOLIC, Kara was a chocolate point siamese and was just so beautiful. My eldest daughter (15) was speaking about if we can go to the cats protection and rehome another, but to be honest not only is it too raw (She is really struggling herself so think she is trying to plug the gap) but also the kids are growing up and i will be doing my thing after they move on, so i feel having another cat will be unfair. Oh and did i mention i don't want to go through this pain again?

So, as it is, we are going to shower our love on our gorgeous Golden Retriever Molly for the rest of her days and remember our wee Kara forever

kx