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Securing a loan on a parent's property
My brother is in the middle of a relationship split, & he wants to take out a large loan which he plans to secure against my mum's house. I think this is a really bad idea. Please can anyone help me with ways I can convince her that this is not a good way for her to help my brother.
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what does he want the loan for?
is your mum senile or of sound mind?Debt free 4th April 2007.
New house. Bigger mortgage. MFWB after I have my buffer cash in place.0 -
If he defaults, she loses her home...
I hope she doesnt do it, shame on your brother, perhaps he is the one you ought to persuade.0 -
Tell her that if he defaults on the loan it will be her who will be out on the street. If that doesn't convince her then she really is senile or of unsound mind.I can afford anything that I want.
Just so long as I don't want much.0 -
Guaranteed loans (which is what this effectively is) are always expensive and often devisive, coming between families0
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Please can anyone help me with ways I can convince her that this is not a good way for her to help my brother.
Thanks.
And yes, shame on your brother for leeching on your mum's heart and goodwill - awful.0 -
Whilst I can appreciate she is only wanting to help support her son you should show her a few of the lending money to friends and family threads where it has all gone wrong, and often that is simply unsecured lending / borrowing. If this went wrong the consequences would be absolutely dire, your parents would lose their home to cover your brothers greed.
Do everything you can to pursuade them not to.Thinking critically since 1996....0 -
You're absolutely right. Its a really bad idea.Hi, we’ve had to remove your signature. If you’re not sure why please read the forum rules or email the forum team if you’re still unsure - MSE ForumTeam0
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um, are we sure we know it's a bad idea yet?
"lage amount" is subjective
and if mum is a grown adult who knows what she is doing
and if wife is mental and it's worth it to the family to pay her off...
just saying, more detail before judgement! for all we know bro is a victim of DV etc etcDebt free 4th April 2007.
New house. Bigger mortgage. MFWB after I have my buffer cash in place.0 -
um, are we sure we know it's a bad idea yet?
"lage amount" is subjective
and if mum is a grown adult who knows what she is doing
and if wife is mental and it's worth it to the family to pay her off...
just saying, more detail before judgement! for all we know bro is a victim of DV etc etc
Can you give a scenario when it would be a GOOD idea please?Thinking critically since 1996....0 -
It's five grand to finalise the divorce settlement, brother has a steady job and low monthly outgoings, mum can get the money fast and is happy to help and of sound mind. It's her house, why shouldn't she do what the hell she likes with it?
OP may be worrying about his inheritence. OP may have genuine concerns. But why do kids get to a certain age and assume mum has lost her marbles just because she has different ideas about family values?
I may be completely wrong but there isn't enough info to advise either way. And if MY kids started telling me how to run my finances after I'd managed to raise them through good and bad financial times I'd tell him to do one. Old =/= stupid, senile, vulnerable, neccessarily! How about some respect for the oldies?Debt free 4th April 2007.
New house. Bigger mortgage. MFWB after I have my buffer cash in place.0
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