What Would You Do ?

bugbabe

after 17 years togeather and loads of hints my partner still hasnt asked me to marry him or bought me a ring .we are really happy and i love him loads but i want to do the wedding bit lovely dress before am to old ,i have asked him about it he always says he wants to but never does anything about it, should i just book a wedding ?or should i keep waiting and hoping sometimes i feel like he musted love me enough as he knows how much i would love to be married do you think am just being silly

Gabriel-Ernest

Have you proposed to him? Does he really know how much it would mean to you?

bugbabe

he does ,maybe i should propose to him i always get emotional when i hear about people getting married i know it sounds silly but i feel like am missing out

Benny24

Tell him it's what you really want, check it's what he really want's too. Then tell him if he doen't propose, you'll do it!!

See what reaction you get! He may well say hang on that's my job, and be jolted into doing something about it!!!

livinginhope

I don't think you're being silly,17 years is a long time to feel like this,you obviously need the security that marriage will bring and he doesn't feel the importance.I agree that you should try proposing,if he says yes,set that date,otherwise it could be another 17 years before your trip down the aisle
Best of luck
LIH

silvercar

You need to resolve this once and for all. If he really doesn't want to gt marriage then you need to accept that and enjoy the lovely life you have together. If you let it worry you, you will drive a bigger and bigger wedge between you and end up destroying the relationship you have.

lisa_75

I was with my husband for 14 years. No ring, no proposal. I really wanted to get married for lots of reasons. So one day I just sat him down and told him that we needed to think about this issue and where the relationship was going. At first he didn't really see the point of us getting married, but if I wanted it he would do it. I just went ahead and booked the registrar anyway and took it from there.

If I would have waited for him to arrange anything we would never have got married! I am a little disappointed I never got the whole down on one knee thing though. We are married now, so that is all that matters I suppose!

Getting married was so the right thing to do and we both wish we had done it years ago. At least waiting so long meant our kids had a day to remember too!

emmaBZ

Ask Him !!!

mountainofdebt

Just propose to him.

Never send a man to do a woman's job!

MissGosh

Go on, be brave & bite the bullet!!
Good luck if you pluck up the courage, let us know how you get on

larmy16

Some men need a good push to the alter. Go for it.....:)