getting to know family again

red_devil

oh and i were quite close to his two nephews when they were born and for a few years after. We used to visit and play with them and take them out etc. Then there was a family bust up which made it impossible for us to keep the contact although we we always thought of them.

Fast forward on some years they are now old enough to see us on their own and we have contacted them to say we would like to see them. Apparantely they are going to give us their phone numbers. Oh has briefly spoken to his sister and she says is ok.

Has anyone experience of reconnecting with people where contact was broken? We dont know that they have been told by their parents as to why we fell out? It will feel strange after all these years to see them if we do go ahead?

julie03

our family had a major falling out with 1 brother about 10 years ago and at the moment we are not ready to see my brother but his daughter is 17 and started to get in touch with family about a year ago, we finally met up at a family reunion this year, we have told her that we dont want to tell her what the family split was about as at the moment she doesnt know anything, if her dad tells her and she wants to ask questions she is quite welcome.

we asked her when we met up had he told her anything and when she said no we said it was down to her parents to explain what happened as he adores her dad and even though what he did was really bad we dont want to destroy her father daughter relationship

it was really strange to see her after all this time but my mum was so happy and her reaction to seeing her made us cry, just go with the flow and try not to involve your nephews in what is basically your argument not theirs as it didnt involve them, and let them know how much they have been missed and are loved
as she is young she doesnt seem overly worried about something that happened 10 + years ago as she knows it didnt concern her at the time as she was only 7 all she wants is to know her family.