In laws

Dippypud

Hi poppyjay,
how old is your baby?

Speak to your health visitor, if she still comes.

It's possible you have post-natal depression, this won't help you get your 'head' round your in-laws being a pain.

But, you should speak to your GP or someone similar, as help is available, and having support and encouragement is vital.

the_cat

You say on the one hand that it is causing problems between you and OH again

But also say you are 'very much' in agreement on how to progress

Which is it??

j.e.j.

You and hubby need to stick together. Decide what behaviour you both will and will not tolerate.

It will be difficult for him as she's his mother and mothers often know just which buttons to press, don't they? But it sounds like he's got to be strong with her.

Maybe cool things off for a bit, don't see the in-laws for a while. Give the dust a chance to settle. It's nice (usually!!) to see family members but if you're too much in and out of each other's pockets pressure can build up.

poppyjay

Hi there no way I'n depressed .the I'n laws tried to make out I were went to my family doc who's known me for years and said I was very well just a little stressed .

poppyjay

Sorry read it wrong as me and my husband are arguing over this not I'n agreement .

the_cat

Right then, your number one problem is deciding on a course of action with your OH that you can both live with.

That means a calm talk where you work out what is and isn't acceptable which you can both tolerate and are both prepared to stick to, no matter what the outside pressures.

You would probably rather you never had to see them again, he would probably like to forget the whole history and start again. NEITHER of you are going to get exactly what you want and will both need to compromise

Otherwise it will destroy your relationship

p_joker

All I can advise is just stay away from them as much as you can, I have a problem with my M.I.L she has little to no time for her youngest grandson but has plenty to say about my sons from saying one has "a problem" when i said he doesn't seem to say as many words as his brother did at his age and saying she thinks my eldest is autistic! she even had a word with my sons nursery about this who told her they didn't have any reason to think this. All I do is don't go out of my way to do anything for them

celebrate

i sympathise and know exactly where your coming from.
unfortunatley the MIL is the other woman in my and my OH's relationship, he does everything for he and does f... all for us. All I can say is you will never truly be happy until you can forgive and try to build bridges. Holding grudges hurts no-one but yourself.

Darlyd

OH GOD! Nightmare for you OP.

Darlyd

OMG I could of wrote that! MIL gets right on my tits !!

She comes round un invited to do the garden !!!!!!? (That is why I don't bother doing it, cus she will RE DO it). It's like hubby has to ask her permission to decorate.

He works Sunday mornings so When it's my weekend to work I can't do a Sunday morning so have less money. BUT MIL wants him to take her bus station for 8am next Sunday (she could get a taxi?), She say's (in her controlling voice) "I need you to take me bus station Sunday morning so you can't go to work", Hubby says "OK". This was during OUR conversation of me saying, I am so skint babe, I need to do some night sits, BUT can't as you working Sunday mornings, any chance you can just 2 Sunday mornings a month and allow me to do 2 Saturday night sits a month. His reply "No I need the money". Well f k me.. I don't see his money, he don't give me SH**

Hubby also promised DD1 Alton towers this coming Saturday, BUT MIL butted in and told hubby he was taking her caravan to be serviced! OMG:mad:

Sorry OP I am so angry with my MIL at the moment, click fingers and go running kind of thing. I can't offer you any advice except talk to your hubby about how you feel, perhaps sell up and move few hundred miles away? :eek: