chaotic family schedule!

bmj191

My life seems like chaos!
Hubby works 4am - 9:15am
I pass him the baby, go to work at 9:20am
I get back 12:45pm, he goes back to work 2pm.
3pm I do the school run, hubby gets home at 6ish.
Daughters fed, bathed, bed.
We clean up, then finally sit down for a brew 8ish.
Except on a wednesday when I'm at night school.
Weekends are a mix of hubby working, and 60 mile round trip to take oldest DD to her dads house.

In short, we're knackered!

We're not the only family like this, and I'd love to know how they cope?
We have no organisation anymore lol! :-D

top_drawer_2

That sounds exhausting!!

Maybe look at getting a childminder or a lady who does to look after the baby and manage the housework ...

Jen

minimoneysaver

Why are you doing all of the running to get your DD to her father's house? Surely that should be for him to organise?

peachyprice

That's what life is like when you have children and work, you do get used to it. I wish I had a couple of hours every afternoon to get things done. My day is pretty much:

OH goes to work at 6.30
I leave at 8.30, do the school run
Get to work at 9,45
Leave at 2.30
Do the school run, home by 3.45
On Wednesdays take DD to ballet from 5-6.30
Thursday take DD to Brownies 5.30, pick her up at 7.15
OH gets home at 6.30
Eat at 7ish (except Thursday)
Get DD ready for bed at 8.30
Finally sit down together at 9pm
Saturday housework and ballet with DD from 2.30 to 4.00
Sunday Ironing & church parade first sunday in every month

Thankfully my boys are 16 and take themselves where they need to be.

Darlyd

My hubby leaves for work 4.45am,
I do school run 7.50am and again 9am,
I go to work 9.15am-12pm
pick little one up from nursery 12.15pm, Do house work etc.
hubby home at 3.25pm, I go work 3.30pm. (DD1 walks home from school)
I get home between 9-10pm, hubby is already in bed.
Wednesdays I rush home to take DD to guides, and pick her up when I finish work (3.30-9pm Wednesdays)
I work 7am-9/10pm alternitive weekends. hmph..

Don't get much family time.

tattycath

minimoneysaver wrote: »

Why are you doing all of the running to get your DD to her father's house? Surely that should be for him to organise?

IMO i would say it largely depends on 2 things 1) who moved away and 2) what's best for the child(ren) and what agreement they have in place

When i moved with my kids i used to take them to see him every other weekend and after a while we agreed to share the travelling.

I don't think that when couples split up the onus should just automatically be on daddy to do all the travelling.

churchrat

Sounds like my world a couple of lifetimes ago. I can promise you that there is a solution, you just have to wait a while ( 10 or 15 years should do it) and you will have plenty of "me" time.

In some mad moments I miss that chaotic whirl, then I just look at my next door neighbours, and thankfully sit down with a good book!

good luck, enjoy the children while they still think you are the bee's knee's and try and get a good nights sleep at least once a month!

themull1

tattycath wrote: »

IMO i would say it largely depends on 2 things 1) who moved away and 2) what's best for the child(ren) and what agreement they have in place

When i moved with my kids i used to take them to see him every other weekend and after a while we agreed to share the travelling.

I don't think that when couples split up the onus should just automatically be on daddy to do all the travelling.

My ex does all the travelling, he took the car and i'm not taking the kids miles on the bus to visit him, nee chance.!! Most peoples lives are hectic, the days seem to fly by.